Anyone not a dressy type for pre-wedding events?

Are you talking about the rehearsal dinner? We're planning to keep ours casual. The nicest we'd probably go is jeans and a nice top, or maybe a light dress.

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Where I am from, a nice tshirt and jeans is common for the bride at a rehearsal dinner. At a shower, she might go business casual with slacks or leggings and a nice top. I personally have never seen a bride in a dress, even in the higher incomes, until the wedding day,

Maybe because of the way we went about it, but I didn't dress up for our rehearsal dinner.

Jeans, t-shirt, and Converse. That's who I am, so that's how I went. Our dinner was at Hard Rock Café, not in a private room or anything, so I didn't think I needed to be dressed up. My husband was also in jeans, a t-shirt and sneakers.

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I've never been to a shower that was that dressed up. I admit I wore a dress to my own bridal shower last year (we postponed due to the pandemic), as did a few of the guests, but they were casual dresses. The majority of guests wore jeans.

I skipped the showers completely and for the rehearsal dinner we are setting up the sanctuary beforehand, so i will be in jeans and a t shirt.... plus we are having soda and pizza so no dressy-ness there lol.

For our couple's showers (2), I'm doing like a dressy casual I guess? Since they'll both be during the warmer months I'll probably wear a cute sundress or jeans with a really nice blouse!

If I have a bridal shower then I'll do more dressy with that and do a nicer dress with heels. Rehearsal dinner, we're wanting to keep it more casual, so I'm planning on just doing jeans, booties/heels and a nice sweater/blouse!

I didn't have any pre-wedding parties, so I can't answer the question for me. But I have attended my share of other people's parties and the formality and style of dress varies so widely, that I couldn't even say what is common or not common in my region. That is to say, there is definitely not one standard and no right or wrong way of doing it.

I have never seen something so casual at pre-wedding events, especially for the bride, but if thatʻs what your norm is then that makes sense

That hasn’t been my experience. But every culture/region is different. We’re I’m from and in my culture we find a reason to dress up and throw a party for every little thing. My bridal shower dress was a wedding gown and for every wedding related event I’ve worn a gown and the guests were dressed in formal to semi formal attire. I think this is a mostly “know your crowd” thing.

Ooh, pick me, pick me! Honestly, though, I really hate dresses. I'll be wearing one for my wedding, but haven't for any pre-wedding events. I was in jeans and layered tank tops (black and red- our wedding colors) for the bridal shower and shorts and a wedding-related tank top for my bachelorette party. I'll most likely be wearing jeans and a tank top for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner as well. We're on the central coast of California and FH and I are both pretty simple and casual people. Getting super dressy for those pre-wedding events just isn't our style, and I'm fairly certain I would have actually given my mother a heart attack if she'd show up to my bridal shower and saw me in a dress.

Nope! I’d never wear jeans/leggings or a t-shirt to anything related to our wedding.

My go to in the winter might be Tshirt and jeans, but in the summer, I'm a sundress kind of person.

So, for our shower, I wore a favorite sundress, and for our rehearsal dinner, I recycled a dress I'd worn to a wedding as a guest. It was actually fancier than most of our guests, but, being the bride, no one cared. I also dressed it down with sandals and my stepmother just did a fun braid on my hair.

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My bachelorette party was Medieval Times, so I wore a costume, and our joint "surprise" bachelor/ette was a baseball game, so I wore my jersey and a skirt.

My husband told me, "when I die, don't put me in a suit. I hate suits." When I asked what he'd want to be buried in, he said his black shirt, jeans, and Converse. He wore a tux for our wedding, and has worn suits as a groomsman, but it isn't who he is, just as dresses aren't who I am.

I think people should be authentic to themselves when it comes to their wedding and related events. If that's a ballgown and a three-piece suit at your rehearsal dinner, go for it, but if that's jeans and T-shirt, I think that should be equally embraced. Being comfortable and happy should take priority over expectations and outsiders' judgments.

4 small showers in different locations and very different groups. One a set, challis skirt and matched top, all older than I , day time dressy restaurant. nice pants and top, after lobster/ scallop dinner on a restaurant dock. Jeans a d top, swimming in suit, summer lakefront. Even more casual of same. After more than 25 years of going to various wedding and pre wedding parties last year for the first time I say a bride in a summery white dress. Not generally done or mentioned outside of WW. Thus about a third to half of all guests at each were in mostly white summery print dresses, or white jeans with a mostly white top. That bride was upset people wore white, thought for brides. All guest basically telling her, You get the rights to a white wedding dress. Nothing else is ever white, round here.

Maybe I'm just dressy, haha! I wore this dress to my shower the other week. Most of my guests wore dresses too.

I've definitely been to showers where the bride didn't though! I went to one in the fall where the bride wore a jumpsuit.

Hello Michelle:
At our engagement party, we wore casual outfits. For me: jean + casual shirt, for her: casual pants + top . At our RD we're doing the same for 2 reasons:1- Partly because the EP and the RD was/is held at a "minimalist" restaurant with a very casual vibe and appetizers pizza/BBQ + beer/sodas instead of a formal meal.2- Partly because the wedding industry pressures couples into buying unnescessary things, and we know it.Sure: we're buying some unnecessary add-ons: a cake topper, 2/3 wedding signs, a pocket square for me ... but these stuff don't cost $200+ each ...