Anyone not do bridesmaid proposal boxes or similar ideas?

View Quoted Comment Thanks 😂 It definitely fit us and our relationship

View Quoted Comment Lol I love those little things. They scare a lot of people but it's funny lol!

I did not do it. I just straight up asked my four bridesmaids. For my matron of honor, I've known for years she was going to be my MOH and she knew I was going to be hers. She got married to her husband back in 2018 and I was her maid of honor. So, it's always been a given. I never had to ask her and vice versa. When we knew we were best friends, we just declared to each other, "you're going to be my maid/matron of honor!"

We skipped them. I agree that it puts pressure on people to say yes, and I feel like being in a wedding should be a conversation. Brides should be clear about what their expectations are and communicate that to their potential maids before they agree to be in the wedding. The girl I originally asked to be my MOH was also asked to be in another wedding around the same time, and for my wedding all I wanted was for her to wear a dress of her choice that fit within a few guidelines and show up the day before my wedding to attend our rehearsal, and for the other wedding she was expected to buy a specific outfit that she hated, go with the bride to pick out her dress, help plan a bachelorette and shower, pay for a destination bachelorette, and pay to attend a destination wedding. The commitment for my wedding was two nights and a day (we were going to pay for her lodging) and whatever she wanted to pay for her dress. For the other weddings it was nearly two weeks of vacation time from work and several thousand dollars for travel, accommodations, gifts, clothing, etc. So I feel like making the ask a conversation with clear expectations instead of an on the spot "yes" or "no" answer to a question is definitely the best route to go.

I skipped them!

in the end though i kind of wish i did it just because it's super cute. but instead i just gave them more presents later.

I asked my 5 girls first over text/in person - though it was already obvious and expected so it wasn’t some big dramatic reveal. Only 2 are local to me in NYC, and we’re having a destination wedding in Maui anyway. I’m also sending gift boxes (like a follow up proposal box haha), not only to set the tone for our intimate but bougie wedding, but primarily to make them feel pampered and special like they’ve done for me ten fold. It’s an acknowledgment of the investment we’ve asked them to make to complete our dream wedding experience at the top resort in Maui (Andaz Wailea!). No surprises, no fake formalities, no teen girl drama or unneeded stress…just business as usual, and I simply want to show my girls a little love back! 🥰


My love language is certainly acts of service, like for much of my crew, so it’s all natural for us! At such a reasonable cost too - a little over $100 each box, for my 5 BM, mom, and MIL - I’m excited to think up little welcome bags for the wedding trip now!

I just asked them in person when I told them I was getting married. Though, I'm not sure I actually asked my Maid of Honor - I just told her she needed to keep a certain date open because her "services were needed" and that was kind of it (the joys of being friends for such a long time). I haven't technically asked my jr bridesmaid/flower girl (she right on the edge of too old for a flower girl) yet, as I want to ask her in person and I'll see her in a few months (plenty of time and her mom is one of my bridesmaids and already knows). Same with my ring bearer (he's my MOH's son). The idea of the boxes are cute and all, but for me - I'm in my mid 30s. Seems more of a young person's style in my opinion. My people were all just happy to be asked, they didn't need anything special.