Anyone NOT doing personalised vows?

I think we arent, probably would go the contemporary but traditional christian vows. in our opinion some things are better kept in tradition. some couples do traditional vows, and then recite a few personal words to each other (not vows)

We're not allowed to since we're getting married in the Catholic church, but even if we were allowed we wouldn't be. I agree with you that whenever I hear personalized wedding vows I always cringe a little.

I attended a wedding this past weekend with traditional vows. It was beautiful. I totally understand wanting to go that route. We agreed to write ours, but it's an understatement to say I'm terrified.

I would cry like a baby reading my own vows & hearing the vows FH wrote. we decided it was best to do traditional vows but we'll be writing each other letters & reading it the morning of the wedding

We are doing traditional vows :-) I definitely didn't need that added stress of writing my own vows. Plus, like you said I love the idea of saying the same vows my parents and grandparents said to each other.

We're not. I feel like it would be too much added stress. We just want the "Wham, bam, your married" ceremony. 10 minutes, tops.

We aren't writing our own vows either. I kind of wanted to at one point, but after reading all the different suggestions our officiant gave, we found ones that we loved and wanted to use. I am looking forward to saying the more traditional vows!

We didn't, because H is terrible with words. Seriously. If he was asked why he loves me, all he can say is "because I do". Sweet in its own way, but not vow worthy! We found an officiant that created vows for us based on what's important to us, and I loved them!

Were having a nuptial mass so traditional vows here too!

I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I just kept having people ask me 'are you writing your own vows' and seeing it a lot on here and I started thinking that maybe people would expect it.

As I'm English we're actually going to be using the traditional Church of England vows which I love (as I say, same vows all my family have said to each other including aunts, uncles, cousins etc, and seeing as there hasn't been a single divorce in my family I feel like that's a good omen somehow! lol)- including the more traditional 'I will' rather than 'I do'.

We're not - FH wasn't comfortable with it and to be honest, I'd rather not pour my heart out like that in front of 100+ people. We're keeping it simple. I've been to ceremonies where it has worked beautifully, though. I'm not against it at all.

Most everything about our wedding is traditional, including the vows. My motto is if it aint broke don't fix it. If you choose to do your own vows that's fine but we like tradition and we aren't very creative either.

We're not doing it. I wear reading glasses and I really don't want to have to ask my MOH to pass them to me to read the vows lol

I was going to write my own ceremony and do my vows. Then I said to hell with it. I will be just as married with a 15 minute basic I do ceremony

We're not. We don't want the added pressure of coming up with our own vows. Neither of us love public speaking and we thing we'd do better sticking with tradition. Plus, I kind of like repeating words that so many couples before us have said.

Omg I thought I was the only who finds some personalized vows a bit cringeworthy! Are we allowed to admit this out loud? Lol. We are not having a church wedding, so I think we will have to work with the officiant to come up with something for both of us to repeat after her. I don't want to do anything overly personalized, I prefer more traditional.

We aren't because, to me, those feelings are kind of personal. We chose a combination of vows from a list provided to us by our officiant. We will be writing more personal letters to share with each other the morning of

We aren't. I'm terrified of public speaking and afraid I'll stutter or pass out. I will be tweaking generic vows so they will work with same-sex marriage.

@MzRosaLu - I think it's ok to admit. I personally do find them a bit cringeworthy.

I also agree with what someone else said about those things being private. Maybe it's the English in me - we don't do outward displays of sentiment in my family - that does feel like there is a lot I say to my FH that is just been us. The way we tell each we love each other and so on.

We definetly are not doing personalized vows, I would be terrified FH would say something inappropriate