Anyone relate?

I personally don’t know anyone who got sent gift baskets or things like that after they got engaged. People typically give gifts at the bridal shower and the wedding, and maybe a very small token (like a bottle of wine) if there is an engagement party. Also, as has been said on multiple posts in this forum, no one will be as excited about your wedding as you are. People also will tend to get more excited when the wedding date is closer. Given your date isn’t until 2024, I wouldn’t expect much outside of people just verbally congratulating you or sending you a text.

There have been a lot of similar posts on here lately. No one will ever be as excited as you. Plus, after being together for so long, most people already view you as a "unit" so might not understand how being married will be any different than what they've already been used to (especially if you already live together).

Echoing what others have said, no one will be as excited as you two. Also if youve been together, and living together, theres not much point of a bridal shower since you should have most things you need. The only person I know who got engagement gift was my friend, from her sister. But her sister was there helping to choose the ring and was behind the scenes for the process.

Congratulations on your engagement! Feel free to bounce off ideas here on WW. I'm not sure what "girl-wise" means, but contrary to old ways, weddings are equal opportunity fun and planning for both partners now regardless of gender. If both persons invest their own money be sure they will have lots of opinions. Also, there's no one-way to be a bride. You don't need all those extra parties if it causes stress. If you were to host them all then you would be responsible for all costs in addition to the wedding! Plus, it's faux paux for a bride to throw herself a bridal shower as it looks gift grabby ("shower the bride with gifts"). Like the others said, most will offer a text or call of best wishes for now. Everyone will be more excited closer to date, so don't be down.

Yes I can relate hi and Congratulations to you both and we are happy for you your wedding wire family. But that's how I was feeling about it as well when I told my kids who are adults now. I didn't get the excitement from them like I really want some of them I should was happy until a certain point. But I then was getting thru my bliss why this could happen to me and they all are in the right age to be married. But things was going right for them so they rained on my parade I told a few friends and they were super happy but once again going thru the beginning process of starting to plan our wedding. 1 particular person start trying push her wedding style and wants on me. Which is not what we wanted or looking for she basically started with the whole crying this was supposed to be my time. I'm like WHAT!? Ok I'm sorry that you weren't able to get married it was bad its alot more but I clearly understand how you felt. Now married some of them made our 5days of marriage terrible but now we have put everyone in their place. Plan your wedding sweetheart and whom ever is not happy for you guys that's there lost .

It’s about managing your expectations of the people on your life. Social media I think makes it seem like there’s going to be so so much happening, but that’s not reality. You’re not getting married for awhile yet.

Word of caution, please don’t plan a shower for yourself. It’s not really a good idea, because it will look like a gift grab. You need to let others plan gift giving events for you.

Meanwhile, you’re welcome to discuss planning here!