April 18th Wedding Stress/pandemic

View Quoted Comment President Trump just suspended all travel from Europe until end of April! So no one can come to the US from there

View Quoted Comment Yeah I just saw that. I thought it was the next 30 days!?

My wedding is the weekend before and my stress level is through the roof. We are missing 100 RSVP even though the deadline was 10 days ago. Most guests are local but there's also a few elderly and we also have a few who had to rescind their rsvp because of health issue or travel ban. Plus our city in northern CA just issue a ban of public event over 1000 guests. Either way, fiance and I will fly back for the wedding because we will lose all our money since all payments have been made. Let just hope for the best for all of us!

View Quoted Comment Honolulu, I want to do some shopping on our last day there lol

View Quoted Comment 30 days from Friday, midnight is what he announced. We’ll see exactly how that materializes.


I live in Charlotte and so far everything is normal... aside from (or including, depending on your perspective) the hoarding of toilet paper, cold/flu/pain meds and hand sanitizer. 😑 NCAA basketball tournament will play without fans and the NBA has suspended all games. So large sporting/entertainment events and gatherings like conferences are starting to cancel. School is still in session and we’re still going into the office for work. My local wedding vendors are still posting on IG though, so that seems to be carrying on.
So sorry you’re stuck in the middle of this.

I’m getting married the same day as you. We just sent out a mass email saying that the wedding is still on but we are monitoring the situation. FH is totally calm and serene. Meanwhile, I’m panicking. I never thought in a million years we would be in this situation.

View Quoted Comment Yeah this is madness!! I'm glad Charlotte is good so far. I hate it for our out of town folks, including myself and FH who will be travelling. After watching the news, I feel like everything will be canceled. Smh

View Quoted Comment Oh wow where is your wedding? It's opposite over here my FH is saying it's world ending and I'm trying to remain calm but now I'm starting to panic!!

View Quoted Comment I'm in SF so I'm right here with you!! Stay strong!

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Girl are you right about the emotional toll. I get married the day before you in los angeles. So far no one has reached out who has already rsvp'd saying they aren't coming anymore because of the virus. still waiting on another 60 rsvps. Some of my family is to scared to come and some are still coming. Definitely not how I imagined this whole experience going. On top of normal everyday stress, work stress, and planning a wedding brides now have to worry about this. On top of it all my FH has to be out of his current place this weekend. Problem is the house we will be living in isn't finished yet. It is completely bare with no kitchen, no shower, no paint, the hardwood still hasn't been refinished. Now he has to move in and deal with having nothing or couch surf as I am back with my parents until we are wedding. ( we both come from religious and old fashioned families so we have never lived together) This is just soooo much stress I am on the brink of tears all the time. I am able to hold them off at work but once I get home all bets are off.

View Quoted Comment At this point I'm in the same boat wasnt feeling this nervous when I first made the post now things have gotten worse in a matter of hours. I now feel it's my social responsibility to social distance myself given the current guidance. This situation is alot worse than I originally thought. I have tears falling as we speak! I'm sorry about your situation as well. Having an unfinished home in a time like this I'm sure is unsettling! Prayers are up to you and everyone reeling from today & the news! I'm trying to look on the bright side...

I’m so sorry, but it’s been announced that three people have tested positive for the virus in Charlotte. Schools still haven’t closed and employers haven’t mandated working from home, but people are getting a little panicked here. People mobbed and cleared out the grocery stores yesterday in response to the announcement. If at all possible, you may want to speak to your vendors about postponing. Last year when the hurricane was predicted to possibly hit Charlotte a number of weddings were postponed. A number of vendors were as accommodating as they could be about rescheduling or covering for one another. It’s worth starting to check with your vendors about postponement considering you and your guests would have to travel to be here.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the update Rachel I'm getting pulled in a million directions. My FH thinks we should postpone since all his family will be travelling my mom is recovering from food poisoning and can barely speak but thinks we should keep the wedding date and not postpone. We have a huge wedding party coming from all over and do not want to disappoint ppl who have already paid for dresses/tux hotels and flights. I dont know if I can stomach dealing with the stress and waiting a whole year to do it in 2021 let alone contacting our guests and getting the message out the wedding is postponed but that is looking like a reality right now!

View Quoted Comment So sorry you have to face this. I’d just start seeing what your vendors can accommodate in terms of rescheduling and then once you have your options you and your FH weigh the pros/cons and sleep on it. Then decide. With enough notice hopefully you and your guests can start changing flights and reservations (if you’re able to tell them the new date if you tell them you’re postponing) so you don’t lose all money that’s been already invested in traveling. Best of luck!


For local news, the Charlotte Observer and WSOC TV have been pretty timely with updates on what’s happening out here, just as FYI.

Honestly, Dallas went into lockdown almost as soon as the pandemic announcement went out. 🤷‍♀️ So things are going down fast here. Schools are cancelled, the grocery stores are wiped out. Best we can do is breathe and do what we feel is right for our situation. I would play it be ear and see how you feel in a few days.

View Quoted Comment We need to make a decision now, unfortunately we do not have time to wait. I feel like my hand is being forced. We are currently making a pros and cons list of each option. I'm hoping we can at least do a courthouse wedding on 4/18. At this point even that seems like it could be in jeopardy if more containment and self isolation happen.

View Quoted Comment What we did is make a list of our had to be theres. My mom, his mom, his dad, our siblings. Then we weighed the likelihood of them getting here and how safe it would be. Very likely you will be able to elope by April, and that's what we're electing for. We decided fh's mom is too weak to risk it, so we're pushing ours out depending on the venue. And eloping when we can. Tough call, but his mom should not travel and she was on the need to be there list.

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As of right now nothing is stopping me from marrying my FH. all our vendors and reception venue said they are still in. If the church says they can't do a large wedding then I will ask if he will still marry us with just two witnesses. I've have waited years to meet the love of my life and I want to start our lives together. I think that everyone is hoping the social isolation will stop the spreading. crossing our finger that middle of April things are looking better. If only a handful of people show up to the reception or we have to cancel at least I got married and I will throw a party another time once things are back to normal. Not how any of us imagined our weddings but I guess we roll with the punches

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Roll with the punches is right. I feel like we are getting punched over and over again. Sometimes I am okay with the thought of postponing other times I am thinking who knows this could all clear up by mid April. It is just a risk we have to take and we have to make a decision now. I hate that this is happening but it could be worse. I feel the same as you do about marrying my FH, but I know he would want his family present after all we've been thru. I just have so many emotions and I am sure you do too!