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Are bachelorette trips normal?

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Emily, on November 22, 2021 at 2:28 AM

Hi everyone! Wondering what your opinions on bachelorette trips are. My bridal party is planning one for me and my sister-in-law (bridesmaid) can’t make it because she’ll have a newborn baby (I 100% understand and support that). But my future MIL said she probably wouldn’t have made it anyway, even if she weren’t having a baby, because she wouldn’t have wanted to pay for a trip, and that it’s not normal/fair to have a bachelorette trip. I wanted to keep the cost down so chose a location where most of the bridesmaids can drive to and we’re staying for a few nights.

Wondering if any of you planned a trip for your bachelorette or got pushback/judgement for wanting one?

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Effie · on December 3, 2021 at 12:07 PM
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I would say that Bachelorette trips are normal, and as long as you are taking your friend's situations into account, it is totally ok to have one! If you know that most of your friends don't have the time or money to travel for a weekend, then maybe a farther off destination isn't right for your group. For me, every single one of my friends and family that was invited lived in a different state, so if they all wanted to join they would have to travel anyway! My MOHs really took the reins and did the planning for me, but I know they generally costed it out and let people know what the total would roughly be before anyone even bought flights so they could decide if they were up for the commitment. I had a few people who could not come (one of them being my sister-in-law who was super pregnant!), and maybe I am just fortunate, but they weren't upset with me about it! and I obviously was not upset with them. I really think the most important thing you can do is be considerate of cost and what your friend group can afford, and communicate that there will be no hard feelings for anyone who can't make it.
Also, many of my friends at my Bach party didn't know each other, but they are all great people and got along so well, and had a lot of fun together (even the really shy ones). I have also been on Bach trips where I didn't know anyone but the bride, and had a ton of fun while making new friends! Everyone is different obviously, but the point of your trip is to celebrate you, and having that as a common mindset seems to bring people together.
Do whatever it is that will be the most fun, and the least stressful, and if that means taking a trip with your best girls, then go for it!
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Audrey101 · on January 3, 2023 at 11:19 PM
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Personally I think it depends on your crew. Me personally I would never put that type of commitment out there for my bridesmaids. We love to spend time with our bride but it is a financial commitment for us as well and often a 4 day trip to a big city is still going to cost a bridesmaid $500 for a 3 day thing WITHOUT the cost of gas and everything else going into this. That's typically the cost for split among for a place to stay and a couple activities that the bride would like to Do.
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