I am a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding in October. The other bridesmaids and I are in the process of planning for a wedding/bridal shower for the bride in September. Randomly today, the maid of honor sent out a group text asking us what our thoughts are on the jack & jill and when and where we should have it. I am a little taken back and confused ... I thought you do one or the other, not both a shower AND a jack & jill. But maybe I'm wrong? Orrrr, if both events are going to take place, then I thought the groomsmen were responsible for hosting the jack & jill?
I don't want to reply back questioning this yet because I don't want to be seen as the "complainer" if I am indeed in the wrong. It just seems like a lot to me that the bridal party would have to host (financially and dutifully) both a shower and jack & jill as well as buy gifts and contribute to both. We are also having a Bachelorette party too.
This all goes without saying that this couple has been living together for years and already have a house together....which I thought was the main purpose of a wedding shower --- to help them "start out in life together".
Any thoughts/experience/advice on this? I'm not close to any of the other bridesmaids so I don't feel comfortable asking them about this.
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