Are brides really that selfish?

Oh girl, you have no idea some of these witches think the world belongs to them just cause they're getting married

Lolol i totally feel you on the guest list thing. i wouldnt care unless it is a close friend or family member. i wouldnt want to make the people in our family have to choose whose wedding to attend, there are 365 days in the year...

I would want my family there, not "gee have your wedding the same day as mine so I don't need to invite your family" I want as many people to come that can!!!! If I didn't I would have just eloped or gotten married at the courthouse

Mmm, it depends on if we had the same guest list or not. Personally, I'm not inviting my whole family, just the ones I'm close to, so if someone chose my day knowing I'd already planned mine and made those guests choose between us, then yes, it would irk me. But, if the guests you actually want to come are still coming, then it doesn't matter!

In my family, there are 4 if us in 3 different cities that are engaged. 3 of us were looking at the same time frame. As soon as we set our date I let family know. Not because I am being selfish, but if two weddings are planned the same day, the rest of the family would have to choose who's to attend and neither couple would get everyone they wanted at theirs.

As long as you are aware and okay with any guest list overlaps, then by no means claim your day. I claimed so family wouldn't have to choose.

I think the issue here is the travel with 1 family members wedding in one place amd then to immediately go to another it could be a transportation nightmare and hard on your family's finances. I would not want to deal with that I would hate to make my family choose.

My cousin is getting married the weekend after me, across the country. The only reason this bothered me is that his mom is my favorite aunt and actually one of my most favorite people on this planet. She likely won''t be able to attend both and of course needs to see her son get married! I also really wanted his sister and her fam. to make it to mine, but that's a no go as well now. so it did sting a bit, but there was a bit of relief knowing my guestlist will be a few lighter (the rest of that side of the family that will likely go to his. I DON'T feel that relief about my aunt).

If a friend had the same date I think I'd be bummed that we wouldn't get to celebrate each other on the big day. But I'd get over it, minus it being my best friend or something.

Lol @FutureMrsPereira. That made me laugh out loud because its true.

I've never been close with that side of my family. Honestly I invited them out of respect and I have no idea why about 15 said they would come. I truly believe most of my family guests are coming because we live in a different state that no one has ever been to and they want to see it. So I really don't care if most of them come. As long as my mom, dad, brother and best friend show up... no one else could come and I'd be OK.

Guess I'm just different.

I have one friend getting married the weekend before me, this cousin either the same day or day after, and another cousin the month after me. Busy time of year

For me personally, I'm really close with my cousins and my whole family. So yes, if my cousin was getting married the same weekend as me I would be upset. Not because they're stealing my day...but because people that I genuinely care about wouldn't be able to come.

Unfortunately, some are. I had a friend stop speaking to her sister because she, according to the bride, purposely went into labor to steal her thunder. As far as I know, they still don't speak. That was 15 years ago.

Yes, only because it would make people have to pick which one to attend. That's the only reason I wouldn't want mutual family/close friends within the same weekend is that. But it also wouldn't be worth a hissy fit (nothing is).

ETA.... He was planning on being across the country the day before his own wedding?

Kitandkaboodle.... wow...

A & J Thats what I said! I told him he was crazy if he thought he would make it to mine with his the next day. but it's his choice I suppose. I'm partially wondering if he used that as a gate way to get permission form me to not come. I've had a few people do that. "So the day before your wedding I'm supposed to be doing this..." and I tell them it's fine they don't need to come and they get happy saying thanks for understanding. I'm not upset or judging, its just something I've noticed.

I wouldn't say it's selfish... but I know my and FH's family are very tightknit and they would be very upset about weddings so close together because then they'd have to choose whose they go to. I think what he did was polite, not something that shows the "selfishness" of brides.

I wouldn't through a hissy fit, but still... it's not fair to the guests or to the couple if they are close to the other bride and groom, as they would have to change their honeymoon plans in order to go to the other wedding.

Larissa - I hear you! Lol Some family members invited to our wedding we aren't close to we're just inviting them out of respect for the older folks..... if they don't come better for us, less mouths to feed. As long as our parents, siblings, kids and close friends are there that is all we need.

Kitandkaboodle - LOL WOW!

That's nuts. He asked you if it's okay. It's not. Real not.

You must've missed the girl who's pissed because her sister got engaged before she could get married.

Alexis, I remember that post! lol shit got heated really fast!

I would be upset if someone if they planned a wedding the same day as mine (or around mine) if they had some of the same guests on their invite list... I wouldnt throw a fit, but I would be upset that close people to me couldnt attend, because of another wedding.

That being said: i would also feel awkward being close to two people that are having weddings so close together, and then being put in the akward position of choosing which one to go to.

I would be irritated if it was someone I was close to...