Are Honeymoon Funds a No No?

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I know some other posters have said otherwise but I don’t think it is an issue to include it in your invitation suite particularly if you don’t have a website. Guests shouldn’t have to trail for information so in my books all the information they need should be included in the invitation suite (RSVP dates, dress code, gifts etc).

You know your crowd better than anyone here. This, or any mention of gifts on the wedding invitation, would look like a gift grab in our family/friend circle. No one mentions gifts in wedding invitations and everyone in our circle gives money as a gift without being prompted to.

Having a honeymoon fund is absolutely fine! However, mentioning your honeymoon fund on your invitations is the ultimate etiquette no-no. In fact, I can't think of anything ruder. Better to include it on your wedding website, just NOT ON THE INVITATIONS!

Idc what the "no no's or no go's" are. I'm doing a honeyfund.

I don’t see anything wrong with a honeyfund. I didn’t know that was considered a “no no”. What’s the difference between registering for a honeymoon versus registering for household items? I would much rather contribute to a fabulous honeymoon the couple actually wants instead of buying them a blender they don’t need!

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Amen and TY!!!

I’m with you girl- we own our home & don’t need more things to clutter it up! We’re only doing a honeymoon fund. I’ve has several guests asking if we’re registered anywhere- the look on their faces when I tell them? Relief! They are soo relieved that they don’t have to go shopping or look over a registry to buy a gift. I’ve been told “you’re making this easy! All I have to do is buy a card & put $$ in it!”

We are doing a honeymoon fund. We have been together for 10 years and have 6 kids... We don't need more stuff lol. I added it to my wedding website so people to see and several people have told me the prefer just giving me a check over getting me something I don't need.

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Curious...did you NOT put anything in the invite then? You left it up to people to ask you if you were registered?

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View Quoted Comment Absolutely not- that’s considered rude. I have

My honeymoon fund listed on our website. I’ve been told etiquette is not to list it on the invitations.

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I would say don't even mention money or gifts on your invite. Mentioning gifts on your invitation is tacky, tacky, tacky, even with a cutesy poem. Feel free to put on your wedding website that you are not registering anywhere, and people will get the hint. I do like honeyfunds though! If you want to register there, do it, but just treat it like you would a normal registry. Put it on your website, give out the information if anyone asks, but do not put it in your invitation.

You will look gift grabby.

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Exactly this! Don't list it on your invitation.

View Quoted Comment I agree 💯

Honeymoon funds are super common nowadays, because so many of us live together/are older. We did one, and some people did contribute - a lot of other people just gave us cash/cards.

A lot of websites (we used the Knot's) actually set it up so you can break up the 'asks' and label them - like "romantic dinner for two" or "train tickets to {destination}" or whatever. People like to give experiences, if you don't need stuff.

I think if your wedding is full of people who love you (as I’m sure it is) then they will not find it tacky and will be happy to contribute in whatever way fits you two best. I would say - maybe make it an option to do some anonymous money gifting. Not everyone will have large amounts to gift and to avoid anyone feeling bad for smaller contributions, an anonymous option might be nice. But it’s your wedding so nothing is tacky if you want it (:

I think that is a good idea, alot of people are doing that nowadays. If they want to give a gift why not contribute to what the bride & groom want. I want to incorporate that for our wedding in April, especially since it's an away wedding

We have a separate card that reads, "we prefer your presence over your presents..." and then go on to explain that we are not registering for gifts and that them choosing to spend the day with us is more than enough. The majority of our friends were hit hard with the pandemic and don't want them to feel obligated to spend money on us.

Many people do not give give cash gifts for any occasion. Guests know that gifts are optional and will give what they feel is most appropriate.