Are people still weird about honeymoon registries?

Most people here are against them but where I live it’s very acceptable. I’ve given honeymoon gift cards several times and don’t see anything wrong with it. I’m still giving the person a gift either way whether it’s from a store registry or for a honeymoon registry. There isn’t much difference in my opinion.

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Thank you! I feel the same way! These threads scare me.

It is becoming more acceptable but the concept is still stupid. If you register for a honeymoon fund, they take a fee out of your guests' gifts. If guests give you cash or check in a card, you get all of it.

There's also the whole idea of asking for cash, which is rude no matter what the occasion. Add in the deception of guests supposedly buying you something specific like a catamaran sail, when you get a check and can spend it as you choose, it's no wonder that some people all still opposed.

Most people are still against them.
The reasonjng being is it is rude to flat out ask for money. People justify it by saying that “they’re giving us experiences” but usually the site takes a % and they just give you a check at the end not set up the experience so you could use the money for whatever. It’s just easier to give a card with cash or check so you get the whole thing. We set one up before joining here, we had friends and family do it and didn’t see a problem, but I’m 100% regretting it (no one is using it and now that I understand the ‘against’ view I actually agree) but people already know it’s there so whatever live and learn. 🤷🏻‍♀️I don’t mind it but a lot of older guests might disagree and be put off by it.

I don’t mind giving you a check for your honeymoon. I have a problem giving a website money, them taking out a fee and you having the option not to do the excursion I hand selected for you to do. So it’s all about the approach, I would never give through a Honeyfund.

I’m opposed to them. They seem so tacky. People know money is a good gift...why mislead guests into thinking they are paying for actual experiences?

People have been asking about them more then just a year ago. The question goes back 10 years and it's always the same. You never ask for cash, you never dictate what your guests may get you. It goes against the whole point of gifting. I think it's become tolerable amongst certain age groups, but tbh those generally aren't the age groups that are handing over the large wedding gifts...and those older guests tend to be very offput by cash grabs of any manner.

I think people are more comfortable giving an envelope full of money/a cheque versus giving money to a website.

I'm more comfortable giving cash than giving money to a website that takes a cut. Plus, no one really lugs the physical gifts around, they are sent to the couples home in some instances.

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Exactly this. Honeyfunds take a cut of the check, plus your aunt doesn't actually buy you dinner on the beach, she gives you money for the estimated cost of that, minus the fee.

The whole idea is silly to me, taking away the rudeness of asking for money. Why would you want $49 online, when you could have $50 in a card? And if you're leaving right after the wedding for your honeymoon, but you need the money from gifts to pay for the honeymoon, how do you book anything?

I know a ton of people who use them and I don't think it's a big deal. Make a registry with some direct gifts and this. Then if they hate the cash fund idea then they can just give you a gift or Write you a Check. I'd much rather give people gifts they want and will use.

I don’t mind them personally but I think someone did make a good point above about how the website will take a cut of the money. So it’s better for both sides if you get a check or cash right to you.

Eh. I have one directly connected to our cruise. They don't take a percentage off and I'm not dependent on it for the honeymoon itself. No it doesn't set up the experience (except for certain packages, wine etc) I have to book the excursion, manicures, and such myself but they still bought it for me.

I also have one gift registry, if they prefer that. It write a check. Or nothing. Whatever they feel they can do.

I think it's becoming a lot more acceptable. My mom and aunts all love the idea.

I’m young, so probably part of the age-group that is pro-honey fund, but I hate them. I wouldn’t want to give to one because I know it takes a percentage, which makes sense for the company, but not for the person giving or receiving the money. Plus, I think the fact that they trick people into thinking they’ve bought you an “experience”when they haven’t is all kinds of gross, which is my main issue. I also think a lot of people who like them and think they’re cool don’t know how they work, because I thought they sounded cool until I read about them and then I changed my mind completely.

I could care less that it’s “asking for cash.” I’ve seen so many people do this.

I am going to a wedding in May where the couple has a honey fund set up though, so I have no doubt that they will become the norm, so if it’s your dream and you love the concept then go for it. I have more of an issue with the idea itself than people who use it.

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This is pretty much exactly why I'm opposed to honeyfunds. To me, the very fact that you have to disguise your asking for cash as "you're buying us experiences!" means you know there's something off about the whole thing. Plus, you're lying to your relatives who think they just bought you an awesome helecoptor tour and really you just went to Taco Bell...

The whole thing just doesn't make sense to me. People KNOW cash is a good gift. If they want to bring you money, they will. No need to tell them to, or to involve a middle man to collect the money for you and charge you a fee to do it.

View Quoted Comment I've never thought about it as disguising asking for money, at least not in a "buying the experience " kind of fund (opposed to just a straight up cash fund ) but knowing the intention of where the cash is going.

I think it'd be rude to say it's going towards an excursion but not to actually go on that excursion. THAT makes me feel gross.

I just don't see the point in them. People are going to give you money anyway, why do you need to have them go through a website that will most likely, only give you a portion of the money, and you might not have that for your honeymoon anyway? When you're going to get a better end by not doing it, and you don't run the risk of offending people by not doing it, why do it at all?

View Quoted Comment A lot of people do that, though. I know you say you won’t, but I remember someone on these threads had given to a honeymoon fund for a nice dinner for the couple and the couple didn’t even go on a honeymoon. They just took the money from the fund and used it for something else.

I don’t see how it’s “asking for money” I like to think of it as asking for an adventure! In that mind frame, isn’t registering for stuff just asking for money too?
We have so much household stuff that I think our house would explode if we got any more. And we really don’t want to spend all that time returning gifts.

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I mean, that might make sense if it was actually paying for an adventure. But in most cases, the honeyfund company has nothing to do with booking the actual experience, and the couple gets a check, minus the service fee later on. And if they're going to their honeymoon soon after the wedding, wouldn't it make sense for someone to just give them cash in the card that says, "have a massage on me?"