Are strip clubs a deal breaker?

It has never bothered me. I have gone with him. He has gone with friends for stags or maybe once or twice a year for a birthday. I like that when he does go, he goes to upscale clubs, not any random skank shop. He said when he brings me, I'm too free with the dollars! LOL

FutureMrsDean: thanks for schooling me on what happens at a strip club. I had NO idea.

Ok I get the whole "you should be comfortable with your man looking at other women" thing. Whatever. That's not a big deal.

What about the whole grinding, sticking hands in crevices, extremely forward strippers who are basically cornering them in the bathroom and trying to get them to fuck, begging them to stick a finger in their ass (last 2 happened to FH at strip joints he told me right away).

THAT madam's is a different story. I just keep seeing women talking about the 'looking' thing but i I want to see opinions when skripper activity is actually written out.

I've actually been to a strip club w/ FH. I know he goes for bachelor parties, and it has never bothered me. Last weekend was his bachelor party and they went to a strip club. One of his friends gathered $ to have him pulled on stage and WHIPPED, he has bruises from it a week later... needless to say I think strip clubs has lost their appeal to him.

Lol Nadia...what kinda clubs is HE going to. Jeeeeze

Kirsten girlllllllllllllllllllllllll dark corners of the Bronx.

Um.....he's not your man, like your sweater. He's his own man. And he should be man enough to show you the respect you deserve, in whatever form that takes. If you are uncomfortable (or just skeeved out) by him going to a strip club, then he should consider not going.

Wouldn't have a problem if FH goes on occasions. We have been before a couple of times!

@KM, you're welcome!

It would not be a deal breaker for me. My FH has gone a few times in the past 5 years with the guys he works with while they've been out of town on business. I have no issues with his going but he feels the need to phone me and ask permission before he goes. He says that if I ever have an issue with him going, he simply would not go. When the male entertainment has come to our small town, he has asked me and my friends if we bought our tickets yet. My friends (6 of them) and I did go once (it's not my thing) and my FH was our DD for the night. No wonder I love this man with all my heart.

Thank good my husband. has the hots for only one girl. hahah. He's just not that man. he considers look as a form of cheating . i hope none of his brothers get married because they love those things.

Strip clubs don't bother me one bit. I am actually more comfortable with that kind of stuff than FH is. FH went to one when he was 18, didn't appeal to him and hasn't been to one since.

I could care less if my man wanted to go to a strip club. It is all about trust!! I have been to strip clubs with boyfriends and tons of my guy friends in the past. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. The relationship I have with my FH is that we trust, respect, love, and are honest with each other. He can go wherever he wants for a guys night out. I trust him and that is what matters. I don't like it when girls get mad cos their guy went out with the boys and they happen to venture to a strip club. It is part of the atmosphere and entertainment. I feel it is just like going to nightclubs, bars, burlesque shows, chipendales, etc. It is all about entertainment. Besides; these days a lot of young girls get sluty and bare a lot in regular bars. I say it is not a problem. If there is... then it is the relationship and lack of trust.

just my opinion!

Agree with Ms. T. FH has no real desire to go to a strip club, but I know his groomsmen would like to bring him to one at his bach party. I really could not care less. At the end of his weekend, he will be coming home to me. It is not as though he has never seen naked women before- movies are chalk full of them. He loves me, and wants to marry me for me, and I am happy knowing that if he goes to a strip club once or twice in his life, whatever, I can deal.

I say if they go for fun with a group fine no big deal, but someone who goes all of the time that's a deal breaker. My FH didn't get mad when I went to a male revue for a friend's bachlorette party (totally disgusting btw). We Trust each other completely so it's not a big deal. Mine also knows he can look but not touch.

As others have said, I am fine with one in a while but if it was frequently, I would have an issue. To me, its not about looking at strippers (men watch porn and there are naked women in movies, etc.), its about the amount of money that's usually spent at a strip club. As long as FH and I have been together he hasn't been in a strip club but I do trust him and am not concerned with any trips he may take to a strip club.

I don't allow it to bother me if it happens very rarely. I don't like the idea of him getting dances but the very few times he has, has been when someone else bought him the dance. I would absolutely have a problem with him spending a lot of money in a club though. I trust him but Id rather him spend the money on me

We've never been to one but I'm curious. LOL We don't live near them so I don't know if FH and his gm will go, but I'm not against it.

I've never been to one really but my fiance has in his curious days. He's not into them at all. Just doesn't appeal to us. I wouldn't want a man who felt the need to even want to go to one now.

I totally agree with Marissa. It's disrespectful.

Wow... First off a person of character doesn't support institutions that probably supports sex trafficking. Those who are being defensive clearly have some sort of issues with their moral compass. It is definitely okay for a woman to create boundaries and feel that strip clubs are a deal breaker. And it is definitely okay for people to enjoy open type relationships. Personally, I am the stripper , the whore, the good girl etc in my relationship.