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Rebecca
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Are you ditching the traditional wedding party?

Rebecca, on January 15, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Planning 100

Are you saying goodbye to the old traditional wedding party? Or are you mixing it up with uneven sides, two MOHs (or none), or skipping the flower girl and ring bearer? Will you have a man of honor instead of a maid of honor? A best woman instead of a best man? Are you sticking with or ditching the...

Are you saying goodbye to the old traditional wedding party? Or are you mixing it up with uneven sides, two MOHs (or none), or skipping the flower girl and ring bearer? Will you have a man of honor instead of a maid of honor? A best woman instead of a best man?

Are you sticking with or ditching the traditional wedding party make-up?


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  • Christina
    October 2020
    Christina ·
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    We are having a traditional wedding, mainly because I am way to anal to have an uneven bridal party. It would drive me crazy not having it even on both sides, but I love when others have a non-traditional wedding!

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  • Ashlee
    Savvy June 2021
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    Untraditional as of right now we have even sides 4 on each but could change depending on out of state family. We also have our dogs being the ring bearers walking down with our 9 yr old & a family friend
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  • Macy
    Expert September 2019
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    I’m having a man of honor and my mother is a bridesmaid. My mother and I are extremely close and I can’t imagine not having her with the rest of my friends 💕
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  • Futuremrsm
    Expert October 2020
    Futuremrsm ·
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    I'm not having a flower girl or ring bearer at my wedding, since we are not having kids. We have a small amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen. My fiance is even asking his grandfather to be his best man, I would say we are leaning away from traditional.

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  • Brittany
    Savvy July 2021
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    Keeping this tradition as well
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  • Cara
    Savvy July 2019
    Cara ·
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    Ditched it! Destination wedding in Canada = most people we know and love can't afford to come. But it's ok, they will be at our awesome reception back home. (I would feel bad making people fork over money for airline tickets and dresses...)

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  • Cara
    Savvy July 2019
    Cara ·
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    Same here! Plus we're flying to Canada

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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    Yes, I’m definitely ditching this tradition. Less stress and I could never pick among my friends like that.
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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Mostly traditional.

    I will have a matron of honor, a maid of honor, and 2 bridesmaids. He will have a best man and 3 groomsmen.

    We will not have any flower girls or ring bearers

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  • Esampu
    Savvy July 2019
    Esampu ·
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    I'd actually love to have a bridal party but only because it looks good in photos (I'm shallow).

    But I'm not doing one because we are older and my friends are professional women with kids and careers - it feels like an added expense for everyone and no one ever seems to enjoy it. Inevitably, someone will get hurt, too!

    So, I'm having a MOH, and skipping the rest of it and inviting the ladies to bridal suite beforehand anyway Smiley smile


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  • Gonnabeaburch
    Super July 2019
    Gonnabeaburch ·
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    We are skipping this one and just having our two signing witnesses stand at our sides.
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  • Aretha
    Savvy April 2019
    Aretha ·
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    I've lost a bridesmaid due to medical issues, so it will be uneven. 3 men, 2 women
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  • Kayla
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kayla ·
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    I'm thinking I might make all of my brides maids mohs, my two sisters and my oldest cousin who is also basically a sister
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  • Alexandria
    Beginner January 2027
    Alexandria ·
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    Keeping this tradition
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  • Cassy
    Beginner May 2019
    Cassy ·
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    Not really, but we decided to do blended family vows at the beginning of the ceremony with my daughters and his kids.
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  • Kk
    Beginner March 2019
    Kk ·
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    We have new family so; 3 friends n 1 bro in law (4 groomsmen), 2 sis n 1 sis n law and 1 BFF MOH (4 bridesmaids), my son ring bearer, niece flower girl. + 4 usherette (nieces) and 2 ushers (nephews).
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  • C
    Beginner October 2019
    Courtney ·
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    Keeping tradition
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  • Faith
    Dedicated April 2019
    Faith ·
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    We have two maids of honor and two best men. We just couldnt pick, so we had both Smiley smile
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  • M
    Just Said Yes February 2019
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    Oh really....Lovely
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  • Rachel
    Beginner September 2019
    Rachel ·
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    I don’t think we’ll have a ring bearer or a flower girl. One maid of honor, 3 bridesmaids, 2 best men, & 3 groomsmen.
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