Are you inviting all your in laws to your bridal shower?

There's no right or wrong answer here. You could have your immediate family only or extend the invitation to every woman invited to the wedding if you really wanted. It's really up to you and the host. I will be inviting my FW's mom, sister, niece, and aunts. I'm keeping the "invite in circles" rule and not even inviting my own cousins, so hers won't be invited either.

I actually think a shower is for the couple, so yes, I'd include inlaws. I know usually it's just the bride there and not the groom, but the gifts are traditionally to fill their new home together.

I included any female that was within an hour to an hour and a half of my bridal shower which I was inviting to the wedding. So, I invited my FMIL, but she didn't come.

The rule of thumb in most weddings I've been involved in (and maybe this is just around me, who knows) is that every female who gets a wedding invite with the exception of women you don't really know (like a cousin's new wife of three months who knows no one, the Best Man's girlfriend who you don't know very well, etc.) So we invited all of the females in his family, but I was well aware that none of them were going to come. Not because they didn't want to, but because they all live in other states.

It’s up to you who you want at your shower. Every shower I have been to has had women from both sides there. I know my FH’s cousins and aunts (only 4 people total) will be invited. I’m also inviting his friends that are girls as well as they are some of our closest friends and 2 of them are his groomswomen.

You can invite whomever you want. It does also depend on how many guests the people hosting your shower would like to invite. My shower had no more than 30 invited guests. I did include all women family members on FH's side. However, I didn't include any wives/girlfriends of his friends.

I invited every female who got invited to the wedding who lives within a 2 hour driving distance, as well as FMIL's best friend and FH's grandmother who live far out of state.

We invited every woman invited to the wedding except for any that I don't really know well such as some of FH's friends' newer girlfriends, FH's step-grandmother's sister, and his other grandmother's sister.

I based it off my sisters where she had a table of in law family members- cousins, grandma, etc. my mom and FMIL are the ones planning so it was kind of assumed on FMIL’s end that all those female relatives would be invited. I stuck with a 21+ group though so no young cousins. I had my aunts, sister, grandma, mom and a few friends and MOH’s mom then I had on the in law side: mom, one grandma (other one lives in SC), there aunts, 1 cousin and two cousin gf’s (we’re close) plus Best man’s mom

However, it only came to 33 people and my sister had 45 people invited to hers so i’m Good number wise

It's up to you but in my "social circles" the women on the groom's side are typically invited to the bridal shower as well.

It is up to you! I am inviting all the women who are invited to the wedding on both sides of the family. If your FMIL is throwing a separate shower than I would maybe only invite immediate family from his side but if this is the only shower I would do both!

We had all of his local family invited, and I knew most of them fairly well. My sweet MIL and her threw me a shower for her side of the family in Chicago (we live in NC), and it was the first time I had met any of that side of his family. Most of that family was unable to travel to NC for the wedding, but wanted to meet me and celebrate us. It was a bit awkward to meet people for the first time, but fortunately both my husband and I have lovely, welcoming families!

I will be including in laws, I think the whole thing is about bringing families together. So I think It's important to include all sides.

Most of his family is across the country so those won't be invited but we are very close with the local ones and they will absolutely be invited. His mom, grandmother (who I love), aunt, cousin, and two close family friends will be invited from his side. If more of his family was local, we'd invite them too.

Personally, most of the family invited will be from my side, simply because his aunt, grandma and cousins all live out-of-state and wouldn't be able to make it in anyway. But I am inviting his mom and sisters, brother's girlfriend and niece. I really think it's a matter of preference and variables like amount of people you want to invite, feasibility of people making it, etc.

We will be inviting my FMIL & FSILs, but no one else from that side. Most of my FH's family lives 5+ hours from us (or more), and it wouldn't make sense to invite them from that far away. My relatives all live locally (aside from one cousin), so all of the female relatives invited to the wedding will get shower invites.

My sister had 2 showers when she got married - one where we live, and another where her husband's family lives. Each shower was mostly the side hosting, with a handful of people attending both (just the moms, sisters, and an aunt who we are really close to).

I invited some of my female friends from my guest list. My mother had a whole bunch of her friends who also knew me. My two aunts threw the party. My bridal party, which included my Matron of honor (sister), 9 Bridesmaids (2 cousins, 1 SIL, 6 friends) and 1 bridesman (friend), were all there. My FMIL, chose to invite only a couple of people. We gave her the option to invite whomever she wanted, but that's what she decided to do. My 2 brothers, my dad, his dad, and my cousin's boyfriend took FH out to lunch and then joined us for the second half of the party.

The night before was my extended bachelorette, to which my bridesman and his girlfriend (also a friend) were in attendance. While she couldn't make the shower the next day, he had an estrogen filled weekend! 😂😂🤣🤣 Prior to the weekend, I remember him asking me if he really needed to attend these events. I told him that as a part of the bridal party, he was obligated to attend. (Obviously, he's not "obligated," but it shows a united front. Plus he wasn't invited to the bachelor party.)

It's completely up to you. If you're not familiar with some of his family, then don't But at least extend an invitation to your FMIL in good faith.

I only plan on inviting my FMIL and my FH's ex-SIL to my shower because they're the only ones I have some sort of relationship with; plus many of his family is cross-country.

I only invited my family and friends plus FHs sister and sister in law but that’s it from his side