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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Are you inviting children?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 148

Having an adults-only wedding is a really easy way to trim down your guest list, but it can also sometimes make it more difficult for your guests to attend. Will your wedding be a family affair? Are you inviting children? Do you have any guest list rules for kids? Next Question: Are you inviting...

Having an adults-only wedding is a really easy way to trim down your guest list, but it can also sometimes make it more difficult for your guests to attend. Will your wedding be a family affair?

Are you inviting children? Do you have any guest list rules for kids?


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  • Macy
    Expert September 2019
    Macy ·
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    We invited children. About half of our bridal party has children. Plus we are adopting a little boy who will be there. Also i want to celebrate the big day with everyone not just the adults (:
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  • Dynesha
    Devoted June 2020
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    Not having anyone under 21. It’s an open bar the entire night and we want to have our budget-savvy-dream-wedding they way we want. We told all our attendees with kids that it would be kid free WELL in advance (10 months out).
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  • Jamie
    Expert May 2020
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    We are not inviting children. We want our wedding to be a child-free fun for everyone. We're not even going to have a ring bearer or flower girl.
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  • Talesha
    Savvy July 2024
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    The only kids invited to the wedding are the kids in the bridal party at my wedding
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  • Natalia
    Expert October 2020
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    BIG NOPE! We are planning, basically, a giant Halloween party for our wedding. Where we want everyone to let their hair down and enjoy without worrying about their little ones. There will be alcohol a-plenty, also. The only children that we will be having, are my FHs brothers who are also his groomsmen. But by then, the youngest one will be 17.

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  • Jade
    Expert November 2021
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    We are not inviting any kids. We had to do this in order to avoid having a ton of kids there. We for some reason have a ton of friends that just gained many kids by marriage. I think on my side alone it’d be like 14 kids. And we’re only having 115 people there so it’s quite a lot.

    My cousin is coming from out of state so we’re just going to invite her and her husband, but let her know that her two kids are more than welcome if they have to.
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  • M
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    We are. We are getting married on Halloween next year. I wanted to get married at sunset but my fellow pointed out people with trick-or-treat aged kids might not want to come because then their kiddos would have to miss trick or treating. So we are getting married at 4, costumes encouraged, so kids can come dressed in whatever they like and then go trick or treating; or stay and partake in our candy bar if they prefer.
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  • Jennifer
    Super October 2020
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    Only immediate family (nieces and nephews) because otherwise our brothers wouldn't be able to make it.
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  • Mrscolón
    Super September 2019
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    No real invites lol the only children that will intend are my nieces and nephew because they are in the wedding!!!

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  • Erin
    Expert May 2020
    Erin ·
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    Yes, our wedding is pretty laid back so it's no big deal.

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  • Diana
    VIP December 2019
    Diana ·
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    Yes we are!! We’re a already made family. So we wanted to parents of guest to come and have fun with their family as well.
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    We don't have too many kids in the family so if they come then they come but we prefer the least the better
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  • Andrea
    Devoted October 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Family and close friends including children.

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  • S
    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
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    Kids are more then welcome at our wedding and ceremony, but we also see it as if you are inviting someone who has children it's rude not to invite the kids as well. It's not fair to make the parents pay for child care in order to be at your wedding. With us it's also easier to have the kids because my FH's mom runs a daycare so she has a fenced in playground in the back yard (which is where the reception is at.
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  • Jasmin
    Dedicated July 2020
    Jasmin ·
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    Yes we have way to many close family with kids. We want them to enjoy our day too!
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  • Delphine Kenneth
    Savvy June 2021
    Delphine Kenneth ·
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    This is exactly where we are in our planning stage. The infamous guest list!!! We started our planning with not having a big bridal party. Then our talks turned to having our special friends and family be a part of...which they are. Because it is an evening wedding, we are not having children. We love the children in our lives, however we want our friends and family (with children) to really have a fun night without attending to small children or having to leave early because the child gets fidgety or cranky past their designated bedtime.

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  • Fenja
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    Fenja ·
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    We are inviting kids, since a lot of our guests are from Europe and we didn't want anyone to miss our because we didn't invite their kids!

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  • Jillian
    Savvy April 2020
    Jillian ·
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    Yes! Initially, we tried to cut children out of the wedding to make it fun for the adults. BUT we are having a destination wedding where 90% of our guest list is traveling with kids. It didn't feel right to tell them they had to find a babysitter either at home or on vacation for it, so instead we decided to create a kid's play area!

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  • Jessica
    Expert February 2020
    Jessica ·
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    We have no problem inviting children but we only have a few on the list since we have such a small guest count.

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  • Leighanna
    Dedicated October 2021
    Leighanna ·
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    We are still discussing this. We don't really want to have kids at our wedding, but that would also prevent a significant amount of friends and family from being able to come.

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