Are you inviting kids?

No. It might’ve been different if we had kids we were close to, but we don’t. My cousins are all married with kids, but I barely know the kids (some I’ve never met, many people go wouldn’t know who i am)— and they have a whole slew. Including the kids would have added about 40 people, which we just don’t have the space to accommodate.

Babies are the exception — we’re not about to exclude breast feeding mothers— however only my niece (flower girl) is likely to attend. Our friends with a 4 month old don’t intend to bring him but I have impressed upon them that he’s welcome if they’re not ready to leave him (they currently plan to, but parenthood changes plans!). One member of the bridal party also has young kids (the only non-‘children of cousins’ kids) but they declared they were leaving them with their grandparents before we even discussed plans

We aren't having any children at all. Our youngest guest will be 18 or 19.

We are not inviting children to our wedding, since we are on a budget. However, my younger siblings and my FHs siblings will be attending and participating in the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Different stroke exactly! I respect your opinion. But I definately think there’s a time and a place for kids. And I am that totally anal bride, because we’re paying for everything on our own and I want my big day to be close to perfect🙃 but I appreciate your opinion. I would totally be pissed off having kids crying screaming or talking at my wedding. Plus, me and FH like our adult time-kid free dancing and throwing back a few cocktails. I’m sure your wedding will be super fun! And I agree after spending the amount of money that I did, I wish I would’ve went to the courthouse and jetted off to Italy with my hubby. Good luck on your wedding! ❤️

I was all for having the kids, but kids are very active in weddings in my region. I’ve got a set of 2 year old twins, a 1 and 1/2 year old, 4 yer old boy, 8 year old girl, 5 year old boy, and 5 month old baby. We love kids, so we wanted all of our families’ children there, if possible.

No kids with the exception of my FW’s 3 yr old niece.

We don't have many kids on the list except for the two in the bridal party and a few teens coming in from out of town if their parents RSVP and are from immediate family.

View Quoted Comment Totally Agree!!!!!! It’s such a distraction when kids have meltdowns and ruin your production. It’s not the kids fault they’d rather be playing and having fun as opposed to acting like mini adults bored to death with love. Lol

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Oh yeah I absolutely understand why they lose it a bit. You really can't be mad at the kid most of the time--unless they're throwing a serious tantrum. But mannnn I work with kids and it would be great to not have to deal with screaming children for one day, lol. Especially during an expensive, carefully planned, romantic event!

View Quoted Comment Anna,
my exact thoughts! My kids are in the wedding and well behaved and their both of our kids together. So It’s a no brained, but even my own kids once the party gets really jumping and the alcohol starts flowing my mom plans to take them upstairs to the hotel room and let them play and have fun with their cousins who will be in the hotel room while their parents are downstairs enjoying the reception. I don’t understand why people are so opposed to getting a baby sitter to be able to enjoy themselves. Besides, if my kid were to cut up at someone’s nice expensive event I would be embarrassed and mortified and feel so bad! My FH brother is getting married 2 months before us; and he said we can bring our kids... he has kids.... and they have loads of Nieces and nephews (so I look like the bad guy banning kids lol, but idc) and I really am considering leaving them with my mom even tho his wedding is kid friendly. It’s hard to enjoy yourself at adult events when kids are bored out of their minds. Good Luck Anna!!!

The only kids will be our flower girl who is 7. And our 2 ring bearers who are our sons. 9 and 10.

We invited no kids as we are older and no one has little kids!!

Nope, no kids. Our youngest guest will be a teenager. We have a small family and none of our family members have little kids and no one in our bridal party has kids yet. And I’m sorry but one or two of our friends’ kids are pretty badly behaved, and anyway even the sweetest and best behaved kids act up sometimes, especially if they are tired. Since our families and best friends don’t have kids yet, I’m not risking a kid having a total meltdown during our wedding! Sorry not sorry! I get wanting to invite kids if the bride and/or groom have kids of their own, or if family members and very close friends have kids. Or I guess if someone has a newborn I can see why they would want to bring a brand new baby (but isn’t it bad for a newborn to be around so many people??). Otherwise it’s kind of weird to me to want to bring a really little kid to a wedding for a couple who isn’t super close to your kid, especially one prone to having meltdowns, lol. The kid won’t even remember the wedding and will get bored after a couple hours and the parents will have to leave or will be distracted trying to entertain the kid.

We are inviting kids 10 and up. Our venue's contract actually suggested 14 and up due to the age of the venue. Shouldn't really be a problem since most of the guest list is local anyway.

View Quoted Comment Hannah,
are those all your kids? If so hats off to you!!!!! You must have your hands full. I love my kids and I love that they’re apart of our day.

Definitely kids. I do care about cost I don’t have $20,000 which my cost would have been if I wouldn’t have had such a blessing from the Lord above that I ended up getting so many discounts on absolutely everything! But I could not & would not exclude my guest kids. My wedding is in August & most of Our guest are from up Notth & are on summer vacation. Plus I love my family & we are super close so any chance I get to see any of them I’m all for it. All my wedding party are married with kids so I won’t have any other way.

We said a hard no on kids. We put this on our save the dates, and in our invitation packet by nicely saying : "So that all guest enjoy an evening of relaxation and celebration, the Bride and Groom graciously request an ADULTS ONLY ceremony and Reception." it was well received, and we were able to say A LOT on the caterer bill.

View Quoted Comment Amen girl!!!! Same

View Quoted Comment They aren’t ours! We haven’t been lucky enough to have any of our own children yet! Soon though; I hope. Those are all kids of our cousins or siblings. We love them like our own though! 😊

View Quoted Comment We're the same. We want this day to be about sharing the joy of life with everyone all stages all ages. Never considered otherwise.