As a guest things u NEVER remember at a wedding….

I don't remember:

What *anyone* was wearing

Food

Cake (what it looked like or tasted like)

Favors (unless they were exceptionally bad)

STDs/invitations

Linens

"Themes"

Flowers

what I DO remember-- what went wrong. Like when the ring bearer threw the rings to the groom (who caught them, amazingly), or when the country club announced a tee time in the middle of the ceremony.

All I remember is Food, DJ, and if I had a good time.

Haven't been to many weddings recently;

Here's what I do remember:

bride's dress,

grooms tux - if it looks good on him

their faces filled with happiness (bride) and (relief) groom after their married

how long driving time takes to get from ceremony to reception site

reception venue décor, and lighting

how long it takes for bride and groom to show up for their own reception, because they were too busy taking 1 1/2 to 2 hours of photos

how long it takes to get food, and if it was good

DJ plays really loud music for whole event, but can get the guests out on the floor dancing though

what favors were given

if booze is served, how long it stays free then you need to pay for it yourself

who I sat with at table, and where we we're placed

sounds weird but bathroom access

Don't remember:

bridal party attire

brides flowers

centerpieces

table linen

first dance choices

flowers at reception

what the cake looked like, or even how it tasted

I don't remember:

Chairs

Food

Cake

Favors

Guestbook

What the groom and groomsmen wore

programs

What I remember:

Flowers

Music

Bride's dress

Bridesmaid dresses

flower girl and ring bearer

centerpieces

what the ceremony and reception spaces look like

The look on the groom's face when he sees the bride for the first time.

I don't remember:

Chairs

Food

Cake

Favors

Guestbook

What the groom and groomsmen wore

programs

What I remember:

Flowers

Music

Bride's dress

Bridesmaid dresses

flower girl and ring bearer

centerpieces

what the ceremony and reception spaces look like

Sorry, not sure why it double posted!

I remember a lot about the weddings I attend because I am very picky about detail and presentation. I don't pick their weddings apart because that is their wedding and not mine. The things I remember very well are if they bored me to death with long winded toast or power point presentations. I am skipping all of that at my wedding.

Things I don't remember:

1. How many bridesmaid or groomsmen were in the bridal party

2. What kind of flowers were used

3. The vows.

4. If the chairs had covers or not

5. Music selection during the ceremony

Things I do remember

1. Music selection only at the reception

2. Wedding gown and BM dresses

3. Food

4. If there was alcohol

5. Bouquet toss

6. Garter thing

I don't usually remember the finite details...only what I thought about them (does that make sense?)

Like I don't remember the cake/food, but I remember if i liked it or not

I don't remember the centerpieces, but I remember if they were blocking my view

I don't remember the exact style of the bride or BM dresses, but I remember the colors

One thing I do remember though from all the weddings I attended (beyond my teenage years) was if there was a favor and what it was.

But again...I have a terrible memory. I barely remember my FSIL wedding that was last year, and I was her MOH and helped her with a lot of things haha.

The only things I ever remember are the unusual portions. For example, one wedding had a rule that whenever someone clinked their glasses, the newlyweds had to kiss (it was super awkward). Another time, the couple washed each other's feet and a groomsman fainted, all during the freakishly long ceremony.

I only remember the venue, music and food! These things were at the top of my list and what we invested more in! Everything else is a blur.

Chairs, decorations (flowers, etc), favours, meal... honestly, I don't remember a lot about any of the wedding I have been to, other than how the bride and groom looked. The rest of it is in the background because its not about that.

I remember at my cousin's wedding in 1995 the wedding cake. It was several tiers (4-5) and each tier was square with white, black and gold. The only reason I remember it is because it was July in Lake Tahoe and it was outside and the cake started leaning. Oh I also remember my cousin's garters showing through her dress when you got close.

At my BFF's wedding I remember the DJ.

I Don't Remember:

Invitations

Favors

Entrance/First Dance Song

Guest Book

Linens

I Do Remember:

Bride's/Grooms attire

Bridal Party

Food/Drink

Music

Centerpieces

Atmosphere

Things I don't remember:

Details of the dress - it was white that is about it.

Flower girls, ring bearers, what the BP wore

Centerpieces/napkins/style of plates, etc.

Toasts/speeches

Dances/songs played

I DO remember:

The ceremony - can recall even the smallest detail of every ceremony I have seen

The food - especially if it was "bad wedding food"

The cake - if it was good but not necessarily the style or flavors

Favors - I do not like trinket favors because they always end up in the trash

The DJ - let's face it, everyone can tell if you have a crappy DJ

The Band - I do not like bands that play entire weddings because they can be so loud

What I remember:

the dress

-the overall look as in was it in a pretty church, a nice garden, things like that

-if the music was too loud and if the DJ wouldn't leave you alone so you could relax. personally, I'd rather have a computer playing nice background music then a DJ- don't care for them most of the time.

-the cake- I like big overdone cakes that make a statement and draw the eye. when I see a small cake on the table that is drown out by the too big centerpieces it makes me sad.

-the flowergirl. she never outshines the bride IMO, but they are always so cute

-when the bride is happy and the couple seems so in love. the kind of happy and in love where they are still happy even if the cake get knocked over and everything goes wrong! you can never beat that

-pretty centerpieces, ,mostly the ones with candles, love those!

what i never remember:

-the invite (I just take the info, put it into my book or cell and it's never thought of again)

-the std -it just gets lost& things that the std doesn't include can often be a make or break deal on if I can attend. like the location. since as it seems many may send a STD, but then not send a invite I tend to pencil the date in, but until I'm certain everything is set I dont make real plans around them.

-the food. I have allergies that can kill you, and 99% of the time I can't touch the food served. so like many like me that don't admit it, I've become very accustomed to the whole eating before I go somewhere and having food stashed in the purse routine. for many the food is a big deal and that's fine, I'm just not one of those people. only time I remembered the food was a wedding where there was a dish of a fish salad, and a dish of baked beans. think whoever cooked that food thought they were cooking for a party of 10 vs a party of 100 plus. most everyone didn't get food and the party was something like 6 hours total. don't even think there was a cake. not sure why that all went down. I still had fun. I was a kid and my dad snuck out for a while and got us McDonald that we just ate outside.

- when they have single use cameras on the table. because I used to work at photo labs and not once was anyone every happy with the results. those things make me cringe.

-the favors. if I notice them it's mostly 'they spent how much time and money on these things?' I like it better when they put out bowls of wrapped candy and things like that if they really want it.

-the chairs- unless they are cracked or dirty and you aren't sure if you should sit on them.

I remember most details but there are a few standouts that I tend to rate the wedding on:

Did the wedding start on time (I don't think I have ever been at a wedding that started when it was supposed to) so its more how late the wedding started.

How long the ceremony was.

If there was a "flow" to the wedding and if the amount of time spent on each "tradition" seemed appropriate (for example at one wedding, there were 3 "first" dances, about 8 "toasts" and 2 bouquet tosses).

I don't remember the cake. I usually don't even eat the cake!! I don't remember the GM attire unless its unique. I don't remember the programs, menu cards, signage, etc. I remember chairs but I don't remember linens. I don't remember music selections for the ceremony or the reception, only if the music was overall good/fun.

I always remember the FOOD!! I also remember the centerpieces (it is what you stare at while you eat, after all!), the favors, and if the dancing was fun. I remember if the ceremony was short or long, and if it had any funny or sentimental/memorable moments. I remember what the bride and BM wore and what color the theme/flowers were.

There is a tradition in the part of the country where I live to have a cookie table at the reception--dozens and dozens of cookies arranged on platters and guests help themselves. I might not remember the linens or the flowers or the "first dance" song but I remember if the cookies were good! The last wedding I went to, the cookies were awful!

What I remember from the last wedding I attended:

My (now) fiance was listed as guest on the invitation (friend in question knew we were in a committed relationship and living together.) Per Emily Post, his name should have been on the invitation.

They sent out a "Save the Date" event on Facebook and when I selected "Maybe" I had to explain myself.

They printed the wrong address on the invitations and didn't put up signs or directions to redirect people.

Their ceremony was long and very religious, without a lot of personal touches.

No entertainment while they were off doing whatever.

Guests had to carry in chairs from ceremony site to the indoor barn where the reception was located. (Maybe 20 feet or so)

No options for someone with food allergies. (I was only able to have punch)

Dry wedding.

Decor was cheap and cliched. (Burlap and lace. Centerpieces were old church bibles)

What I don't remember

What the food even was because I couldn't eat any of it.

Music...None until after dinner

All in all that was a very poorly planned wedding. I should mention that they couple in question got engaged in April/May and were married in mid September. I think a few more months of planning and preparation would have saved them.