As a wedding guest myself, I don't really understand guest complaints

I feel like no matter if you have $100 wedding or a $100,000 wedding that there's always complaints. My dad's cousin, who's a multi-millionaire, had the most extravagant wedding for his son, and I overheard people complaining about certain things. People are INSANE! That's why I really don't care too much because someone will always have something to say.

On,my family we call it "car talk".I'd never disrespect someone's home or event by saying something in the moment. We went to a wedding last year and the food and drinks were horrible.When the bride made her rounds and came to our table and asked how was everything we smiled and said,"delicious".Its the couple's special day some dry chicken isn't worth it. Now, once we got in the car all bets were off.

I can't imagine any of my guests would complain, however, if they did my sister and MOH would have no problem asking them to leave. Personally, I don't care whether or not they're happy, it's my wedding, not theirs.

Haha Nay, we do the same thing in our family. I'd never tell the bride and groom though. I find something I liked to rave about to them. lol

We haven't even made it to the wedding yet and Ffil wrote something on the rsvp about how he wanted chocolate cake. We're having passion fruit cake so suck it buttercup. Like he completely meant it and thinks wee going to accommodate him.

Duales, can you get the band to play the worlds finest violin for your FIL if he complains?

@duales- you mean you aren't going to change your cake now that you know it should have been chocolate? Lol wow.

I haven't been to many weddings but the few I've been to, I get caught up in the love story of it all. If anything, when FH leave I get the car talk going but its usually something that violated the bride and groom (i.e. can you believe those people said that to the bride?) I'm simple and enjoy the simple things in life. However, Saturday will be the first wedding I've gone to since being engaged and I'll be more mindful of everything. I'm just not rude enough to gripe about it to my friends. Who does that?

I have to post this fast before the WW anti-spam crew makes me answer the same damn question for the twentieth time in 18 seconds (nice approach to the spam, WW).

Attending a wedding is not free. Okay? I leave every wedding couple with a multi-hundred dollar envelope. That isn't free. At least I enjoy an open bar for my $400. Done....

My mother's family is from Jersey. The complain like its a sport... sigh.

It's already started.

I kind of wish I knew what some of the complaints were. We really didn't run into any issues and I would love to hear other perspectives of our day but everyone just says the good stuff.

We did run into an issue with the horseradish being way to hot. It became kind of a joke/ conversation piece. So glad I didn't try it.

Just punch them in the throat

Wow! People can be so rude! You never say anything to the bride or groom. You save your gripes for the car like Nay said. Or here on WW :-) Yall may have seen the complaint I had about a lack of seating at a wedding we went to Saturday. But did we say anything to the bride or her parents when they came over to ask if we were having a good time? Course not! We smiled and said everything was wonderful. And even then, knowing we're planning our own wedding and understanding different choices and costs etc., I kept an open mind. Everything is subjective.

I never understood why people have such a sense of entitlement. Just be a gracious guest. Even when I went to a wedding with a cash bar, I didn't say anything! I even bought the DJ a drink because I noticed he wasn't being served anything. Haven't people ever heard of "if you don't have anything nice to say..."?

Face it; people make some bad calls when it comes to planning, (often despite lots of advice available), and I've seen it all, but it's just crass to complain in real time. You suck it up and make the best of it, but Centerpiece is right; it costs a lot to go to a wedding, even without a big gift; travel, clothing, possibly child/pet care, parking.....etc. This is why people here get crazy about cash bars, dry weddings, parking fees and honey funds type stuff.

I would never, ever say anything to a couple unless they specifically asked me because they suspected something didn't happen the way they planned (or paid for.....). That has happened exactly twice.

No matter what the budget, you can' please everyone but you can get close if you listen to what a majority of the people here advise.

I hated the premise of 4 weddings and I couldn't understand why anyone would subject themselves to that kind of public shaming from three women who clearly had an ulterior motive (thank God the officiant wasn't one of the categories, lol....).

The only wedding I've really complained about was the one that was hosted horribly. And I still didn't do it to the "bride" and "groom" (I use quotes as they had already been married 4 months). And actually they said it WASNT a wedding because weddings are a waste of money and stupid people have weddings (all things they said to my husband/father at our wedding). Then they had a cash bar, terrible and not enough food, a wedding cake, a DJ, vows, wedding gown, a first dance, guestbook, favors, and a photographer. I still am pissed at that shitshow. But, yeah, complaining at a well-hosted wedding is BS. Especially loudly or to the hosts.

And agree with Celia on Four Weddings. I mean, it can be entertaining to watch, but it's really bitchy and Mean Girls type shit. I mean, sometimes they are right about etiquette stuff, but it's often like "it was too hot outside!" "I didn't like the bow on her dress." "her friends were weird" which is just obnoxious.

The worst part is as a guest you are there to celebrate your friend or friends union to their loved one. If you start complaining about the event itself then you were just there for selfish reasons.

I does cost money to be a guest, but at the end of the day, it's not your circus or your monkeys so complaining publicly serves no purpose.

I hate Four Weddings. That show is terrible.

Stephanie, you reminded me of a joke....."So how was the wedding?" "Well the food was terrible, and the portions were so small!"

That's not true Sue. As a host, you should care enough to provide a decent celebration for your friends and family who you, theoretically, like. I don't think it's selfish to think that there will be food, drink, (no matter how modest), and a chair I don't have to move from place to place. To me, that's a celebration. If that's not, if there is a five hour gap rewarded with a cup of punch and a cupcake, I'll celebrate your union from the comfort of my own living room, wine in hand.

I have a feeling that we'll have people complain about our centerpieces. FH's family is into big, over the top flower arraignments. We're keeping it simple with gold vases and gold rimmed votive holders sitting on a mirror, with paper flowers strewn on the table. I'm not about to spend $100 on something huge and elaborate, especially when it's just not our style.