Ask a Venue to Ask Another Couple to Trade Dates?

I'm sorry, but a venue is not going to ask a couple to alter their contract and reschedule all their other vendors because your FH wants their wedding date.

Why doesn’t he like that date?

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I figured......They just scheduled it a few weeks back so I was thinking perhaps they hadn't started any planing yet

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Has to do with our family and odd/even numbers. He prefers the day and month to be both even. Also 10+2= 12 which is the inverse of 21.

View Quoted Comment I mean you’d be better off just switching to a totally different day in October if it’s that big of a deal to him. The couple who has that day booked isn’t going to switch, and they shouldn’t be asked to. The started planning their wedding and booked the venue the day the wanted.

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That is the only day in October that was available

View Quoted Comment That sucks.
If the date thing is going to cause problems then maybe a different month? (Maybe they have something for December?)
I couldn’t imagine having to push out another year because of a date

I understand the whole date thing, my fiancé is greek and they believe everything should be odd numbers since odd numbers can't be divided. But I would suggest looking for another venue or trying to find another date. We chose our wedding date for similar reasons. (3/18/21, 3+18=21)

I know some people say, "It never hurts to ask!" but I do think this is an entirely inappropriate position to put the venue staff and this anonymous couple in. You already know the answer: don't ask, and make your own arrangements to find a venue with your preferred date.

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We really both love the idea of a fall wedding and the venue we love is outdoors and not open in the winter. Honestly at this point it looks like we will have to push another year. He really loves this venue and so do I and I want him to be happy with that we choose date and all. I'm so torn. We've looked at some many different dates and can't find another that works

While I completely understand your fiancés hang up with numbers (i’m the same way), I do not feel it would be appropriate to ask another couple to change their date (nor do I think the venue would do so anyway). If your FH is adamantly opposed to the date available in October, I would contact your venue and ask them for a list of all their available dates & see if he is more comfortable with any of those.

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We already did that and unfortunately he is not thrilled with any of the available dates for next year. We weren't expecting places to be this booked this far out but seems a lot of couples rescheduled from this year to next year prematurely booking up a lot of places

How is 10/22/2022 a better date...?

I admit, this is rather strange to me. I would not be jazzed about waiting another year because my FI didn't like the date, unless the specific date had some personal or recognizable negativity to it (e.g., 9/11/2021 is a Saturday - nope. Couldn't do it).

This is coming from someone who had ~the~ date, 10/10/2020.

View Quoted Comment Wow, he didn’t like ANY of them? I guess in that situation, one of you is going to have to compromise. Either he is going to have to make peace with one of those dates, or you are going to have to push your wedding out yet another year to accommodate him. As I said, I am strange about dates as well. We chose 11.11.2020 for that reason specifically. Due to the pandemic, we have had to push our date out to next year. Do I love our new date as much? No. However, I reminded myself that the success of our marriage does not rely on the date we get married, but rather on our love and commitment to one another. Maybe your fiancé just needs to be reminded of that too.

Also, if he is THAT dead set on specific numbers, you guys could consider another day of the week to be married on besides Saturdays.

What about 11-10-21? 11+10=21, they are one digit off from each other. Still Fall.

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That would be a decent date but it isn't a Saturday

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Unfortunately the venue only has like 3 dates left and 80% of our guests are coming from out of town so a Saturday really is a must. He kind of left it up to me that he really doesn't like that date but will deal with it if that it was I want. He knows our success isn't dependent on the date but a little part of him is looking at it and making correlations and wondering if it is starting things off on a bad note

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It's all even is the thing on 10/22/22 and at our ideal venue in the ideal month. We would have loved 10-10-2020 but neither of us were ready to get married that quick

View Quoted Comment What about having a private marriage between just the two of you before hand? You could go to a beautiful outdoor location, or someplace that is special to the two of you on 10-2-21...just you, your fiancé, and the officiant. It could be a really beautiful, romantic, special moment just the two of you share. Then you could actually be married & sign the marriage certificate on a day that he loves, and then have the big celebration with your family on 10-23 when the venue you love is available!