Asking Old Friend to be Bridesmaid - Haven't seen in years!

I havent seen my bridesmaids in 8 years.
HOWEVER, we talk to each other every day 😊
Can you imagine yourself getting married without them by your side?
If the answer is NO, then you should definitely ask them!

I personally would think that it was weird if someone asked me to be their BM when I don't see them or even speak to them on a regular basis.

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Hi Shannon! I agree with Jessica. You still talk to them, even if you don't see them often. If you can't picture yourself getting married without them by your side, then definitely ask them! I don't think it's weird at all, since obviously it seems like you had/have a strong bond with these old friends if you can always pickup where you left off.

Do you all live in different places now? Are any of them married?

I guess it depends on your friends and what is typical for you. I maybe see my closest friends once a year, if that. I may talk to them via text a couple of times a year. But I still couldn't imagine getting married without them and I'm so glad they were there for me during my wedding. When we see each other it is not awkward at all; we just pick up right where we left off.

I have two bridesmaids that I have a similar relationship with. They were my college roommates and I wanted to ask them as I think they were very important in my “coming of age” and becoming who I am today. We do not live near each other, only speak a few times a year, and maybe see each other once a year. But like you said, when we do hang out, it’s like no time has passed.
if you want them in your wedding, I say go for it. For me, it’s brought us back closer together a bit with the wedding planning details.

would you feel awkward if they asked you to be in their wedding?

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Hi Maren! Thank you for the advice! Yes, we all live in different states now. Neither of them are married.

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Hi jcdb! I'd be surprised but I would definitely be excited that they asked me!

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Ohmygosh that's totally awesome then that you've kept in touch and have such a strong connection, even with distance. If they're part of your wedding day vision, I'd totally go for it, if it was me.

I work night shift. days blur together and recently sent a message to a friend i had in HS asking about life and such.. she said it has been 2 years! i had no intention of not speaking for two years, and felt truly horrible, but bottom line is im getting married and wanted her there. she was thrilled to be invited haha, id just try to reconnect with them, see if they are thrilled ot be talking again and then throw out a im getting married an just cant imagine getting married without you!? i would say yes