Asking to be in bridal party via text??

I literally did exactly this! Asked via text first and sent gifts a few weeks later. And it wasn't even during a pandemic so I had no excuse! But none of them cared and they were surprised and happy to get the 'official' gifts later. I'd say go ahead and text her!

I think with everyone going on it would totally be fine to not do something in person. I would call or FaceTime to make it a little more personal than a text. But still fine.

So I was in a slightly different situation: one of my bridesmaids live in a different country so it’s super expensive to ship, takes forever and can get lost. So I gathered all the gifts and sent her a picture of it by text and also a little paragraph asking her to be a bridesmaid/explaining what each gift was.
If you don’t want to buy items now or can’t because stores are closed, I think calling and asking her would be better than texting.
Honestly though, if you wanted to wait to ask all your bridesmaids, just wait. It took me a few months to ask my bridesmaids and they didn’t get mad at me for it.

My bff did that! she mailed us bridesmaid proposal boxes after she had already asked us

You could always FaceTime her to make it a little more personal. But, not doing it in person is fine. I am sure she will understand considering the current circumstances. Also, gifts are never required when asking someone to be in your bridal party, it is just a nice gesture.

I Asked Mine Via Facebook Without Gifts And I Don't Plan On Getting Them Gifts. I See No Legit Point Besides Being Nice And Spending Extra Money. They Don't Care About It Lol

I actually texted most of my bridesmaids to ask them. I sent my 14 year old cousin one of those cute bridesmaids proposals, but that’s it. I personally don’t see the point in spending the money. Most of us are in our 30’s and none of them minded being asked over text.

2/3 of my girls were out of state so I asked via text. They weer fine with it and just thrilled I asked

Haha I asked all my bridesmaids to be my bridesmaids via text, and that was in June 2019. I didn't even know a bridesmaid proposal was a thing until this site. I think you're fine.

I would at least call her! I asked one of my bridesmaids over the phone because she lives far and I never see her

I would call or Facetime. Text seems a little too informal for something like this.

I think she will just be honored to be BM. Not everybody expects a gift. I think you will be just fine or even if you seen one later.

Totally fine to do it via text, though I'd wait until about 10 months out.

Proposal gifts are a fad, a new trendy thing that the gift industry loves, but which actually makes a lot of people uncomfortable. The proper thing, if possible, is not to have gifts. Because frequently people cannot accept, know they can't do it, and feel pressure. So a lot will say yes, then say no days or weeks later. The nicest thing if you cannot ask in person, is a phone call. So you two can talk about it. The date, the nature of the event, formal or informal ( difference in cost of clothes.) Far away or not. Discuss if she can afford a dress and shoes, and ask her for her budget. See if she may have conflicts. She may have to check with a family member , if someone is engaged and she does not know when they are planning to marry. She may have to check a calendar and get back to you. If you cannot phone, then chat another way. Email, or any way you can ask questions, discuss a pregnancy or a job change or move that might make her unable to do it. That is the most courteous thing. In weddings, as in most things, you give something as a gift after someone does something. Bridesmaid gifts are usually given just before or days after the wedding. When you give something before you ask a favor, it feels like a bribe. You have the gift, and it is hard to say no.
A lot of already married people, and people who have been bridesmaids a few times, usually post to say, don't give gifts before asking. So, you are fine. They are an unnecessary thing, as are lots of little gifts at parties, and getting ready and such. One nice gift, chosen for that one person, if they make it as far as the wedding, is fine.

I talked to most of mine via text (except those two who are local and I see regularly) about it. I didn't do a BM "proposal" gift thing though. That is a relatively new thing that I just don't see the point in. I've NEVER received a gift when being asked to be a BM in the past and I feel like it's just another way for the wedding industry to make money. Our wedding is pretty simple so not many demands on my BMs other than getting their dresses (which I left up to them for style and just requested a specific color), and the only other event we're doing is the bachelorette which will be pretty casual (just a nice dinner out and then to a bar for some drinks).

I AM getting my BMs a few gifts pre-wedding as a thank you (satin robes, insulated mimosa flutes/tumblers and matching hair combs).

I did it via text with both my sisters. Then, when one of them had to bow out, my cousin got a text asking if she would step in. Not a big deal. FH and I plan to do exactly what you are doing with getting them a gift later. GO FOR IT! If I were her, I would just be really excited about being asked!

I would call vs text and after having a verbal conversation I may follow up with a detailed text. Congratulations on your big day...