Attire - wording

Just post a picture of the venue and people should get the idea. It is generally frowned on to tell people how to dress because there just isn't a good way to say it. If you post a picture people will know what they are comfortable wearing to that type of setting.

Telling adults how to dress is rude.

You don't tell them how to dress.

OK, sorry! I could care less if they showed up naked! I was just trying to avoid everyone showing up formal since it's at 6:00 p.m.

Thanks for the input!

You don't. Unless you're having a true black tie affair (and from the description you're far from it,) you don't tell adults how to dress. It's incredibly rude.

Let the adults be adults and dress themselves.

I don't think you need to define it. Since the venue is a farm, no one is going to show up in a beaded gown and a tux.

Now, if you were having your wedding at a country club, you would have to list something such as "no denim".

Just say semi-formal cocktail attire maybe? We are having a black tie optional cocktail attire for our wedding.

On the back of our invitation we had wedding details listed out and we just wrote "attire: cocktail" I didn't want people thinking because our wedding and reception is in a barn that it wasn't classy and dressy.

We are posting a picture of our venue as well as a description of where things will take place so people will dress comfortably. Ex. Ceremony will take place in the garden. Reception in the ballroom. I don't care what people wear I just want them to be comfortable.

I wouldn't put anything about attire. No matter what you put they will come dressed how they want.

I put dressy casual / semiformal on my site.

Op: Please don't follow the advice of people actually suggesting you put a dress code on your invites or your website. It's still incredibly rude. If someone shows up underdressed, it's a reflection on them, not on you as a host, whereas telling people how to dress is a direct reflection on you about how capable you feel your guests are (or in this case, aren't) in dressing themselves appropriately.

I think you can imply this with your invitation style. Don't have hay-chomping scarecrows or anything, and people will figure it out. If in doubt, just put a picture of the venue on your website, and people can use that as a guide.

Things like 'cocktail' and 'semi-formal' can mean so many different things to so many different people.

My wedding is outside and is camo rustic. I told people when they asked me that they could show up in jeans and a plaid shirt. It's very low key.

It's very rude to put a dress code on your invitation unless you're having a truly black tie event. Adults will know how to dress themselves. It's insulting to suggest that they can't.

I get why people say it's rude to tell adults how to dress, and I personally wouldn't put anything about attire on the invite, but here's the other side of that: if there's nothing at all about attire on the website it makes me anxious. I'm not great with social cues, I can't tell exactly how formal your wedding is from the invitation or venue, unless it's ultra casual or ultra formal. Personally I'm leaning towards writing this in a way that's honest and intended to be humorous about how I'm an anxious person, I like to have this kind of information about attire myself, and here's the general feel and theme we're going for, and then let people do their thing.

I put in our FAQs section: Q-What should I wear? A-Wear whatever you feel comfortable in. If you need inspiration, [insert attire] will be fitting for the event.

I don't see how it's rude. I would be happy to know what to wear. I'm always worried about being under or over dressed...I think it makes sense to say what the formality is.

Same as PP. I just put in FAQ "What should I wear?" with a response of "Please note that both the ceremony and reception are outdoors, so comfortable footwear is suggested."

It's not rude to tell your guests what type of attire...I would be the guest that wondered if the outfit I was planning on wearing is too formal or informal...