My fiance's female best friend just called me because she had a question about shoes for the wedding. She is a groomswoman rather than a bridesmaids, but he wants her to match the bridesmaids and he wasn't sure if I was requiring them to wear certain shoes hence why he told her to call me. My only request was that they wear any silver shoes. She went off on a tangent about how she was in a wedding last year and the bride tried to tell her how to wear her hair, makeup and nails. She basically said to me that I better not even think for one second that I'm going to tell her how to look. I was completely blown away because I have no intentions of telling any of them how to look. For God's sakes, the dresses aren't even the same style so why would I demand that they all look the same? Anyways, my concern is that she mentioned doing her own makeup which I'm not requiring hair and makeup to be professionally done, but I would like her to tone done her makeup for the day. She tends to wear a ton of makeup that's often very dark/showy which I don't really want for the wedding. I'm not sure of a nice way or if there is even a nice way to ask her to wear more natural looking makeup. Also, am I wrong for asking them to wear silver shoes because she just made me feel like I was being extra by asking? P.S. her and I have never gotten along and I didn't even really want her in the wedding, but she's my fiance's best friend so I don't really have much choice.