August Bride - Postpone wedding and start a family?

Slightly thought about this. My wedding is planned for September 2020, we don't want to postpone we are hopeful we won't have to. If we can't have the wedding we planned we will probably just have something small. But we want to start a family right away, so we don't want to postpone. We probably would just say screw the larger wedding. Our wedding isn't that large as it is. Having a family is more important to us but we want to be married first.

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Sounds like we are in the same boat! This is all just crazy, who would of ever thought. Praying for the both of us

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Yeah I totally feel this post lol. I never imagined it would be like this. Even if I have to get married in my parent's backyard it's fine. I just want to be married to my FH so we can start that next part of our lives. Praying for you as well!

I feel this! We are 10/10/20. We've been together for 7 years - engaged for 2. We are planning to just have a small wedding (less than 10 people) if this doesn't blow over by September/October. We are beyond ready to start a family - it's hard even waiting until October. But we want to be married before trying. Hoping it works out for all of us!

Hi there,

I think this is a great idea! At the end of the day, you and your partner have to do what is best for you. If that means having a small wedding with babies to follow, I say do it!

Sending lots of love your way!

I’m feeling so conflicted on this!! We’re set to get married at the end of September. Our back up plan if we can’t host our actual wedding is to get married in the church with just our parents and siblings in attendance on our original date. We also want to start trying right after the wedding but also don’t want to give up our dream wedding. This honestly just all feels so unreal!!

I have been trying to also figure out what to do this year. My date is Sept this year and we have a backup date for next May but here’s my problem I’m almost in my mid 30s and want to get married ASAP to start a family but I also am the first grandchild to get married and have a big family that I want to celebrate with so I’m torn with giving up my once in a lifetime big celebration with them, waiting another year which would be better for guests but that seems like a long time to wait or just having a baby and pushing off the wedding. I’m so uncertain what to do!

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Hi Denise,

I feel your pain, I feel it! First and foremost, take a deep breathe and for a moment think about what you and your fiance want for yourselves.

I say that because my fiance and I took the time to really think about what we want and although we want to start a family asap like most couples, having "our" day is super important to us. We thought long and and hard about the pros and cons of (1) getting married in church with just our immediate family (20 guests or less) and saving the celebration for next year (2) just having our wedding this year with however many people we can and leaving it at that (3) postponing to next year. In the grand scheme of things all the options SUCK b/c we can't have our day, how we planned it. No option will replace your original wedding date and plans, but you have the choice now to really consider what you and your fiance want. For us, there were no cons in postponing our wedding other than (1) not having it on our original date and (2) postponing having a family. But, if you move it within a year or so from your original date; I just look at it as more time to spend with your fiance with it just being you two, more time to save money - this puts you in a better financial situation, and more time to get in shape and maybe splurge a little on any wedding details you skipped over. Having a family during COVID is also not ideal, and I only say this b/c I have friends who've gone through pregnancy and birth during COVID, and it's a very isolating time for them. A lot of hospitals were not allowing any visitors other than one person and they don't want anyone at the house to see their newborns from fear of COVID. It just all sucks. Things are getting better and hospitals policies are changing but what I'm trying to say is that if you chose to get married just to start a family asap, having a baby right now and what experiences you'll go through could be a lot different. We don't know if we will have a cure or vaccine or something by next year, and we also don't know if it'll even work. Life is so uncertain right now. So I would suggest to live your life for yourself and your fiance, and make the decision that feels most right to you. I don't think there is a wrong or right way to do things right now. I just wanted to lay out all the cards and my thoughts. I'm trying to look at the positive aspect of postponing because this is just out of our control, and as a bride who was supposed to get married in about 3 months.. it' just not happening lol. People are ready to be out and celebrate life and weddings etc. but people are also still very fearful of getting sick. I hope this helped you in someway and please stay strong!!!

View Quoted Comment Omg I can’t thank you enough for saying all that. It is exactly what I needed to hear and that someone else is also going through the same thing. I wasn’t thinking of all that other stuff and it makes sense. I really appreciate it. I am definitely going to sit down with my FH and think of all these things to help make our decision. I hope things get better either way and we all get our special day whenever that is. Thanks again for the advice and info. I feel so much better!

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Hi Denise, that's great to hear! I hope you both made a decision.