Hello ladies! I have quite the question. Some background: Our wedding is set for 08/22/2020 at a family farm. We initially had a guest list of 190 people but then, because of COVID, have had to cut it down, we are now currently at 114 with QUITE the unrest with some family members on who we had to cut. That is another issue entirely! Our thought was by August we would be in Phase 4 (optimistically hoping we'd be in Phase 5). We thought with inviting 114 people we would be close to 50 RSVP's, knowing not everyone would show up. Decision made. NOW my caterer has emailed saying she won't be able to cater events over 50, she could lose her license, which made me think about the other vendors and if they will have the same restrictions. We don't want to postpone the wedding to next year, I don't want to have another year of planning anxiety. We want to close this chapter and move on to the next chapter and by postponing the wedding or, having a wedding this year and a reception next year, I just feel like it would be a cloud hanging over our heads.
My biggest issue is the guest list. I'm sure like most of you, throughout the planning process, you told people they would of course be invited to the wedding because, well, they would have been pre-COVID but now what? Do I just not address the issue and send invites to the 114 people invited? Do I not even risk the 114 and stick with the 50 and be done (this would only allow brothers, sisters, parents, and grandparents; i have a big family and he has a very small family). Do I start making apology calls to the people I said were invited but now I cannot invite like, "Hey, before COVID you were invited but now I cannot invite you?" We never sent save the dates, it was all word of mouth. My other issue is my bridal shower. The list has also changed multiple times, given what has gone on in the world, and now it might change again! Do I just scrap the bridal shower because the majority of the attendees were aunts, cousins and friends, and NOT part of the 50 we could invite. I'm just anxious about how to proceed because I feel like the guest list is like a dead horse, we keep talking about it and just when we make a decision we get slammed with another issue.
I'm sure the issue seems perfectly clear on how to proceed but I can't figure out the best solution. I feel bad that I keep having to revamp the list and going back to people with changes but I know these are weird times and we are all doing the best we can. I am also hoping others are sharing in the same issue, and have a solution!
Thank you for taking the time to read this! I think it was very therapeutic to type this out! 
