Average Wedding Gift Poll

I give a more substantial gift the closer I am to the couple so I guess it depends!

I think it varies geographically! For me, it also depends on how close i am to the couple, whether they are having a full reception with dinner, did I spend a lot to get there, etc.. Based on those factors, probably between $50-$150 (per person attending so times 2 if FH goes with me).

Generally you pay for your plate at dinner. I didn’t know this until recently, as before I’d gift like 60-80 thinking that was enough but should have been like 150 at least.

The past two weddings I only gifted $25 gift cards, and felt horrible about it, but both times I was the +1 who had never met the couples or only met them once. And I was a broke college student. NOW I would give $50 at those weddings and $100 for those closer to me, in addition to nice shower gifts.

It varies too much from social group to social group, the closeness of relationships, and personal finances to answer your question. Give what you can afford and are comfortable with

View Quoted Comment Nah, there's no reason to consider the cost of the plate. Their choice about the costs of their wedding should have no bearing on the gift given. By the cover your plate nonsense, a could who can only afford a $20 plate would receive less of a gift than the couple who can spend $175. Stop and think about that. Give what you can afford and feel is appropriate for the relationship

My cousins wedding I hand painted a jar for them to use for a Disney vacation savings fund. They talked about doing. A Disney cruise one day. Then put 50$ cash and 100$ in a Disney gift card. The jar all had significance to it. Yellow and green are their favorite colors. The teal and pink are their wedding colors. Mulan (mushu) is her favorite Disney movie and the Incredibles is his favorite.

View Quoted Comment I’ll certainly keep your perspective in mind in the future. Paying for your plate is customary in my culture/where I’m from (even though I didn’t know until recently LOL).

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That is a misconception. There is no way the guest has any control over what the hosts choose to spend on dinner. They are the ones hosting, they pay for the meal. I would not gift my close friends who chose to have a brunch wedding they paid for themselves, less than I would my second cousin whose parents are paying for her black tie wedding.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/07/19/how-much-should-i-spend-on-a-wedding-gift-here-are-six-guidelines/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.3e3ba96ac40a

I give about $100 if I'm close to the bride and groom, $75 if not. I prefer to buy a registry gift so I can use coupons/get it on clearance and get a larger gift for less money, rather than giving cash.

If there's a shower involved, I give a smaller wedding gift.

This varies wildly I’ve learned! On another wedding forum most people were responding saying $200-500 plus! I’ve always been $50 or less and that’s common for my friends. So it’s very dependent on income.

I say just give/spend at least $75 regardless.

I normally give between $75-$150 per a person, depending on my relationship with the bride or groom.

For example, for my FH’s coworker, we gave $150 as a couple. For my cousin, we’ll give $250 or $300

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Remember too that people lie when they are anonymous.

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I'm a lazy gifter. It's generally $300 bucks in cash. No idea where I came up with that number, but it has become my wedding gift standard.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good point and I can’t believe I didn’t even consider that!

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I've always assumed that couples give a combined gift, so if the person who invited you as his +1 gave something that would "count" as from both of you. Is that not standard?

I do $100 per person going...you gotta give enough to cover your meals

I usually bro $150-$200