Average Wedding Gift Poll

Minimum of 175 pp. so FI and I always give at least 350, total. Most of the weddings we have attended are in the NYC tri-state (where we are from) and that’s standard gifting in our circles.

i genuinely think it depends on your region.

$60 cash or if their photographer didn’t include an album in their package I get an album printed for them which is closer to $200 for me to print.

I've heard "cover your plate" as a rule of thumb, so whatever your meal & drinks cost for the bride and groom. We usually spend $100, unless they are close family or best friends, then a little more.

We always give a minimum of $150 as a couple and will gift more for our really close friends!!

Here are some great "gifting guides" you can check out under Wedding Ideas: How Much to Spend on a Wedding Gift, Once and for All , The Rules of Wedding Gift Giving , and How Guests ACTUALLY Pick a Wedding Gift .

Nothing less than $100 from me and my FI to the couple. We tend to float in the $150-200 range. If I sense its going to be a fabulous occasion I can definitely see us giving more, I suppose we informally follow pay for your plate 'rule'. We have attended 4 weddings? Maybe 5? together. Still kind of early for our friend group.

We have only received one thank you note

We are in DC.

Definitely depends on the relationship we have with them. FH high school friend got married a few years back when we were still in college and we only gifted $50pp because that's all we could afford. My cousin is getting married in Nov. and we plan to give around $200, plus travel up to PA from FL, plus I need a bridesmaid dress and get them a shower gift. I definitely would give her more but with traveling/paying to be in her wedding and FH and I paying for a lot of our own wedding it just isn't feasible.

A coworker/good friend of mine is getting married in Sept. we plan to give $100 because we have to travel to the resort, pay for the hotel room and take off work to attend the wedding a few hours away.

It's all situational in our book, we never go under $100 these days though.

We're of the "cover your plate" mentality. It's just a guide and common where we are from. Of course we give more for someone we're really close to and less if we can't financially swing it at the time or have additional travel expenses. We do give a little more if I didn't buy a shower gift, but we always give cash at the wedding in the form of a check. I would say we average between $100 - $250 per person.

The only weddings I've been to thus far, with one exception, I was in and was also broke-broke-broke college student. Fortunately, my family was also invited to two of the three and just stuck my name on the presents The other, I gifted them an engraved Bible with a heart-felt note written inside that they loved. The wedding I wasn't in and attended last year, I had bought her a shower gift and never received a thank you note. So, I got her a simple present I thought the bride would enjoy for the wedding. I feel weird giving cash to friends, so it'll probably always be a physical gift for our friends getting married here in the next year.

It all depends on how close I am to the couple. If we are close Ill do $100 -$150.
If not Ill do $50-$100 or something from there registry if they have one

It would depend on so many factors for me. Ideally, I’d like to spend about $200 from FH and I. However, at different points that can be financially difficult and I would do less. The last wedding we went to we spent a lot of time and money helping before the wedding, so we only gave $100, despite being close with the couple. We would also give less to someone we are less close with or had to travel far for. I do then $100 per person (so 200 from us as a couple) is the “right” thing to do, but it’s not always financially possible. I certainly don’t expect that from most of our friends.

I guess I always felt the norm in the upper Midwest was 50-100$ per person or more depending on how well you know them, but my friend who just got married said it was only 25-50$ per person at her wedding and I was a little shocked.

Depends on a few factors. 1) If I have to travel for the wedding, 2) How close I am to the couple, 3) If I gave a physical gift at a bridal shower.

- Co-workers that I don't hang out with: Probably between $25-$50 in a general gift fund at work

- Acquaintances: $75 Gift Card to Target or Amazon

- Close Friends/Family: $100-$250 depending if I had to travel and bought them a shower gift.

It depends on how close i am to the couple, but realistically 50$ can get a great gift, spend more if you have more money to spend and you find the right gift.

Honestly, I would think about it as if what you would like to receive from people. If you wouldn't want a $50 gift then don't give a $50 gift. Give and you shall receive.

This thread blows me away, I never knew people spent so much on gifts...every wedding I have been to was either a destination wedding or I was in the bridal party so it has been skewed for me. So interesting!!!!

View Quoted Comment Nah, from the knot to WW, the larger price points seem to be coastal weddings, especially the east coast. As someone else said there is an wealth disparity on the forums. What seems crazy to some is normal to others. Attending a wedding is just costly where I’m from.

I can say I'm shocked and apparently I've been cheap for many years. I normally do $50 for friends (granted I havent attended many weddings as a guest). FH and I were talking the other day and we both agreed that with our social circle we would be surprised if we got anything from some of our guests. We are not registering anywhere so we don't expect anything anyways. We just want people to come hang out, drink, eat and dance.

This may be a stupid question but for those saying they gift the price per person of the meal, how do you know? I have never known how much weddings cost until I started planning my own. My parents planned my first wedding many moons ago and the others I have been to were either self catered or I was in it.

Usually $100-$200 depending on whose wedding it is. The last wedding I was in, I only gave the couple $50 (I think? It was not a lot) because of the ridiculous things they asked us to do - they basically asked the BP to buy food and refreshments for their cocktail hour. In hindsight I shouldn't have even gifted them anything but they're really good friends of mine. They didn't even have the decency to send a thank you card though. Just a quick Facebook message that said "thanks for being a part of our special day!"

I think it depends on the situation and relationship with the couple. I haven't been to a wedding in years and I was young and broke. I bought a Crock-Pot off the registry and I think it was $30. It was a co-worker that was so excited about it and is still bringing it to work pot lucks 15 years later.