Average Wedding Gift Poll

Mine & my H's standard gift amount is $300 as a couple, and that was the most common check amount we received for our wedding as well.

We don't give physical gifts for weddings, only for showers.

This is so highly regional.

Our average gift received was 300/ couple.

View Quoted Comment TBH my friends don't mince words, we talk money from salaries to weddings. Additionally, the invitation (invitations share the formality of the event) and pre wedding talks are good indicators. If I'm invited to a BBQ wedding in a barn with ports potties, I know it likely didn't cost the same as a black tie affair at the Park Hyatt.

If there is significant travel we definitely give less. I gave less when I was in the BP too. They were paying $15 per plate but demanded a destination Bach, $200 dress, three showers, bridesmaids brunch etc. No way wasn't i gifting my norm. And I didn't get a thank you for any of it.


Its its cash bar I definitely give less. I shouldn't have to host myself at your wedding.

View Quoted Comment Oh no! That's crazy. I had a similar situation where I decorated EVERYTHING. Plus she demanded a destination Bach and $200 dress and there was no text, FB, or thank you note for my $100 gift or efforts.

I always gift $100

We give $300 for couples we're not close to, and $400-$500 for couples we are close with.

Man now I feel like I'm a horrible wedding gifter... Typically I will give around $75-$100 no matter if it's just me or myself and my fiance depending on how close I am to the person. Then if I'm invited to bridal shower I'll do around $40-$50 for a bridal shower gift.

Edit: Though I have asked some of my married friends and they said from friends or coworkers it was typically $50-$100, so I do think it has to do with your area and age.

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Don't feel bad I usually only give $20-$50 and a card. Now that i'm w/ FH we give $100-$200. Unfortunately most of the people I know don't give a gift at all.

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This is my main qualm with the whole "cover your plate" idea, too. FH's sister is getting married at a courthouse and then we're going to grab lunch next Wednesday. I'm not going to give her less money then a distant relation who had a fancier event. I know that's not meant to be the sentiment behind the whole "cover your plate motto but that guideline is a bit flawed.

Anyhow, I have given what I could. I got invited to a wedding at the last second and I gave $50 each for me and FH but I have also given $150 each.

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^^^^ this FH & I do the same standard is $300.00 for both of us and we never give physical gifts for the wedding, if I am invited to the shower then I shop from the registry.

In my culture you pay for your plate plus give them a profit. Average is about $150 per person.

I generally give a $100 per person. If it is someone really close I might give more. I gave my brother $250 just for myself. I don't factor in if I gave a shower gift or not because I consider that a separate event. I always do a check and only get the registry gifts for the showers. If I get invited and can't make the wedding I usually just send a gift off the registry. I also think it depends on where you live and your actual financial situation. The very first wedding I was in I had no money since I was in school and I had to spend $200+ on a dress and another $100 on dyed to match shoes. I had also given and engagement gift and 2 shower gifts because she had two separate events and had no money at all by the wedding so I just got them a small gift that I had put together for them. Now that I work I probably would give at least $100, unless there are other circumstances that make me give less.

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Haha thanks! I was going through everyone responses with people saying $200-$400 and I started feeling really guilty.

For my fiance and I, we either give a gift of $250 or a gift around that amount. Pretty standard. We don't really consider the closeness of the relationship. But I would say that if we are closer, we are most likely giving them other gifts. For instance, I gave a bride a necklace during her rehearsal dinner.

$100 on average $300 if you’re really close.