Hi all, I am 89 days out from my wedding and I have two things happen recently that stress me out. 1, our Best Man has ghosted us. He texted the fiance last week saying that he has to cancel on the bachelor party (that was scheduled for Labor Day Weekend) and that he may not make it to the wedding. Apparently, his truck is broken down and is costing a lot to fix. Totally cool, I get that life happens. We came up with a plan that could still have him attend the wedding but he has completely ghosted us. He doesn't answer phone calls nor Facebook messages. He has been friends with the fiance for over 20 years so we are pretty upset about this. Has anyone else had to deal with flaky wedding party members?
2, one of our invited friends has gone through a pretty nasty breakup. His girlfriend cheated on him and then kicked him out of their house and kept their puppy. Our friend is still invited but his ex is obviously not. The awkwardness is she has started talking about our wedding and inviting me to things. When she was dating our friend she never once invited me to anything and couldn't even remember my name at parties. She refers to me as "Greyson's Mom". (Greyson is our dog and is in the same playgroup as their dog.) I am rather flabbergasted that she assumes that she is still invited. I know there was a previous thread about awkward conversations but I couldn't seem to find it. Other than outright telling her "you are not invited because you broke my friend's heart", is there a softer and kinder way to approach this? We still will be running into each other at parties and playgroups so I don't want to completely burn this bridge. Thanks!