Babies!!

Neither of us feel pressured to have children after we get married, but it's something that we've discussed and agree on wanting (my FH is always joking to his mom about the future grandkids too which is cute). For us the when is complicated though and we're probably just going to leave it at "when it happens, it happens".

I wouldn't let anyone pressure you into having them, however. Kids are expensive and a huge responsibility that not everyone wants and that's perfectly acceptable. In short, you guys should be the ones to decide when the time is right for you two if you want them at all.

Our families have been hinting about being grandparents even before we got engaged. Everyone's timeline is different. We originally were going to wait until I graduated my doctorate program, but baby fever has hit hard, so now we're considering moving the timeline up by a few years.

Dude I have a ridiculous amount of pressure. All of my friends who got married after me already are pregnant and or have their first kid.
When my mom and mother in law are together it’s the worst! This was their literal conversation yesterday:

Mother in law: how come they haven’t given us a grand baby yet?Mom: they need to give us a granddaughter Mother in law: any gender is fine but they need to give us TWO grandkids. Mom: why don’t they want us to be grandmas? Mother in law: we getting so old too Mom: yea we need grand babies like before we die pleaseeeee
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We have 3 kids, and speaking from my 23 years of parenting, take time if you are still young and still want to reach your career goal. Enjoy the honeymoon phase. Enjoy the peaceful sleep through the night. I also suggest to start saving once your baby is born. Space out their age gap! College costs an arm and a leg 😅

Nope. Never wanted to create any. Fortunately, when I finally got married, hubby was mid 50’s and I was mid 40’s. Maybe next life.

We were not, but we felt it for ourselves.

Still trying TTC right now. We had not planned to tell our parents at all, until this summer, when I suffered a miscarriage.

So, here's hoping...

Honestly, I feel the pressure because I'll be 38 this year. Also, our friends are having kids, and I'm an only child, so this would give any kids we have "cousins" of a sort.

Pressures from society, yes. My Future in laws have several grandchildren that they raised and even a great grandchild that they are currently raising. They never pressure us lol.
My parents, who don't have any grandchildren, have never pressured us.

We aren’t even married yet and getting a lot of pressure from family weekly! I don’t even know if I want children yet and I’m told “yes you do” sooooo yeah it’s been stressful.

My dad and FIL we’re discussing grand babies right in front of us during our reception, lol. The only one kind of giving us a hard time was MIL. Finally I told her there’s a plan for us and when it happens it happens. She asked what the plan was and I told her I don’t know it’s God’s plan. That was last January and she hasn’t said anything since.
My mom knows we’ve been trying so she hasn’t said anything.
We just decided that it was time. I feel more pressure from myself and my husband probably feels that from me. But, not from outside. Plus being a mom is something I’ve always wanted.

We started trying 11 months after getting married.

My fiance and I are not planning on having kids at all. Much to my mother's dissapointment. I worry about the extended family that we don't speak to much though cause they wouldn't know

We got married at 22/24 so people were mostly the opposite, like “you’re not thinking about kids yet, are you?!” Truth was, we were, and we started trying almost right away when we got married. Lucky we did too, because despite being young we ended up having severe fertility issues. After a year of trying, 5 months of daily injections, 2 surgeries, and a miscarriage, I’m finally 11 weeks pregnant 🤞🏻🙏🏻


If we could’ve chosen timing perfectly I think we would’ve wanted to get pregnant about 6 months after we got married, and to have the baby a little after our first wedding anniversary. But obviously life doesn’t always work out that way, so now I’m due 2 months after our 2 year wedding anniversary.

We wouldn't necessarily say pressured but it's been mentioned a few times. We're currently looking into getting a new place and we decided once we get solidified in our place, that we would start. Since we had to postpone our wedding next month, we're hoping we can get settled in our new place, move forward with the wedding sometime this year and then start trying for kids. We'll just have to see how it pans out now.

Kind of, yes - my parents are older and I know my mom is absolutely itching for grandkids, but luckily we live 6 hours away so we don’t visit often and don’t chat much otherwise, so I don’t have to hear or feel the pressure. Whenever grandkids are brought up, I just tell my mom to ask my older brother and SIL - they’ve been married 5+ years, they want kids, AND they live 30 minutes away! I think they waited a few years after getting married, and then the pandemic hit, so they’re waiting a bit longer. Meanwhile, we live across the street from my future in-laws so we see them often, but they’re much younger than my parents and don’t seem to be in any rush to be grandparents! We might’ve gotten a couple comments from FH’s extended family, though, but those are easier for me to brush off. We both want kids eventually, but are comfortable being parents to two crazy dogs for a few more years!

We aren't even married yet and already feeling the pressure. Some put so much pressure on us that I actually got angry. #1, nobody actually knows if we WANT children, including us, and it's not really their business until we decide and tell them. #2, what if we DO decide to have kids and can't or struggle to conceive...that just makes us feel worse. And #3, I just want to enjoy being engaged and getting married! My FH has 3 sisters and they all have children, so that's why the pressure is on us so much. We are the last of his siblings and they want us to have a kid.

We are really back and forth on when we'd want to start as well. At one point I said immediately after the wedding because I'm 32 and will be 33 when we get married, so not getting younger. But we also want to honeymoon in Alaska and I don't want to be pregnant during that and we have to wait until the summer after to do that if we choose that. So it's a struggle to pinpoint when we will start trying.

We don't feel pressured but it keeps being brought up by my husband's grandmother every time we see her. I'm 27 and my husband turns 28 on Friday. She really did not start bringing it up until my sister-in-law (my husband's sister) announced her pregnancy. She lives 10 hours away and I feel his grandmother wants a great-grandchild much closer than that. Every since then she asks or brings babies up every time we are around her. My husband brushes it off but it's starting to get to me. We aren't currently trying (like tracking when I'm ovulating or fertile), but we also are not doing anything to prevent it from happening. For us, when it happens, it happens. If I could pick a time-frame, I'd say within the next 2 years or so for our first. We both know we don't want just one child. We both have 2 siblings and love the idea of having 3 of our own. I loved growing up with my 2 older siblings and my husband has 2 younger sisters. We're both close with our other 2 siblings and hope our children are close too.

I am 27 and my husband is 38. Neither of us have children yet and would love to some day...maybe in a few years. I am in no rush and yes for sure we have felt pressure since getting married in August and being together for the last 7 years. Family and friends just except its the next step. I would love 2-3 kids and love to have them close in age 12-14 months apart. My brother and I are 10 months apart ( Irish twins).But for now we are enjoying being married and aren't in a hurry to start trying. We just got an English bulldog puppy and he's enough for now along with our bullmastiff.

I am 35 (36 in a few weeks) and H is 30, we have my two children already who are almost grown (12 and 14) so we are not sure what the future holds for us in this aspect. It is not off the table but it's also not the main course either. We have no pressure from our parents or our friends and we honestly will probably not have any more children so we can spend our lives together traveling together and with my children.