Baby Sitters for Wedding

Care.com may be able to help, but I would not feel comfortable vetting a sitter for others children when I don't live in the area or even have recommendations. I personally feel childcare is not up to you to find for them. And even if I had kids and you offered a sitter, I probably wouldn't feel comfortable leaving them with a stranger (to me)

Your cousin is an adult and can find his/her own sitter. I had a child-free wedding and half of guests were out of town. Couples worked it out amongst themselves.

It is not your responsibility to find child care for your cousin. People are invited to events all the time and don’t expect others to take on that responsibility, and your wedding is no different. If invited to a party, dinner, movie, etc. does she/he expect them to find a sitter for their kid?

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It's due to that they have to travel to the wedding, opposed to having a local sitter that they use. They said that they wanted to potentially extend the trip to make it a vacation for their family, so they want to bring their kids, but not have the kids come to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment That's their personal concern, not yours. You cannot coordinate every agenda. Don't let them guilt you into investing time and money when you're not even invited on their vacay.

You simply say, "no, we are not providing childcare". If they push it, tell them to bring their nanny. That is no more ridiculous than expecting you to pay for a sitter when they feel entitled to go. Don't apologize, or they may just have their kids crash your wedding.

It’s the responsibility of the parents to find their own childcare.