Baby Talk?!

My FH & I get married early next year! We’ve discussed our 3 year plan and the future we hope to have together. We both want to someday have children and purchase our first home but not sure the best way to go about it.


Backstory: I’ll turn 27 the day before our wedding and he’ll be 27 the week after. I’m a FT entrepreneur and he’s working towards moving into a store manager position at his job. We live in a 3b/2bath townhome we rent currently and plan to purchase our first home in the next year and a half. I also plan to open my own store front Spring of next year! Although we are young we’re some old souls lol I grew up around my old school parents and my grandma. We like to go on dinner dates, listen to music on our porch, and take rides on country roads for fun or just watch movies at home— we’re home bodies lol
So of course we discuss children and wanting them but I’m kind of torn between when to actually start. We have his family in our ear about wanting grandchildren (who live 5 hours away) and my parents tip toeing around the subject although I know that’s their ultimate dream lol I know it’s whenever we’re ready but I know me and I don’t want to look up be 35 or 40 finally wanting a family because I selfishly put my career first. My parents are 56 and his parents aren’t even 50 yet so I do understand the urge for my parents wanting to put grandchildren on my mind because they want us to enjoy ourselves but also remember they’re older too in the next few years as well. Our siblings are also 4 years younger than us so it’s a little bit of pressure on us but I’m sure it’ll be even more after the wedding. My mom has an in-home daycare and my dad will be retiring next year, oh and we stay 3 blocks away from them. We will have plenty of help but I just feel a little torn. I lost my grandma 2.5 years ago and we were SUPER close. So I always think of the 24 years I got to spend with her and I want my children to have that same experience because we’re such a close knit family! I’m so grateful for my parents and how welcoming and caring they are and how much they love children, I mean they’re truly amazing! Any suggestions on maybe “the right time” to start a family or suggestions of when to maybe think of having your first child, 2nd child, etc. if you had to do it all again?

I would love your opinions, being that you all are unbiased and maybe dealing with similar things!