My future sister-in-law offered to plan my bachelorette party for me. It was very sweet of her to offer and I agreed, even though I wasn't initially planning on having a bachelorette party. I love the beach, so she and my future mother-in-law planned for a beach weekend. My only real request was that we would go play pool, and otherwise enjoy the beach and maybe some shopping. We'll only be at the beach for two nights (check in at 4 on Friday and check out at 11 on Sunday).
As we have gotten closer, the kitchen in the room we are renting has been brought up several times. And it was brought to my attention that they, SIL and MIL, were planning on eating at the room quite a bit (i.e. making sandwiches and other cheap snacks). While I know a bachelorette party can be quite pricey, and that is not my intention at all, I found myself frustrated. I really want to have some fun and getting dressed up for dinner or lunch is part of that for me. I expressed that I would like to at least get a nice dinner, to which SIL responded "we would eat a nice dinner once" and the "pool hall has nice food". I don't know if you've ever eaten at a pool hall, but I wouldn't call any food from a pool hall a "nice dinner".
I don't want to be unreasonable, and definitely don't want to propose things that would break their banks, but I just can't help but feel... blue about it all. It doesn't feel like too much to ask for a nice dinner, maybe lunch at a restaurant or something.
I don't have any close friends and I guess this situation highlights that for me. I've done most things for this wedding by myself (My fiancé helped of course), and in these situations I feel really lonely because I don't want to put my future family out, but I also feel far more dread that excitement for my party. You don't have to know me much to know I enjoy dressing up and eating good food. I'm not very picky, and I try my hardest to be reasonable and considerate, but my wedding is starting to really feel like I'm compromising what I want so that other people can do for me and feel included.
What do you think? Am I being unreasonable?
