Bachelor Parties and breakups, and all the in-betweens

Way to go teexoxo! stick up for your great relationship! I am with you, I want my guy to have a GREAT bachelor party. If his BM doesn't get him dancers, I will!

Aww Tee huggssss I don't believe in strip clubs because of my religion BUT if my FS wanted to go, I won't be against it because it shows that he can trust me than lying to me. But he is like me so he hate strip clubs BUT he did look at porn and I didn't get it offensive because he will not have a problem when he get married :-p. Lot of sex and a lot of naughty pics for him to take lol.

But I totally understand that they shouldn't be fighting in public, that is very TRASHY and very TACKY. If I am mad at my FS, I wait until we are alone because I respect the public and I hate drama. You have a right to be upset

I agree that she's out of line. She has a right to her opinion, but this is something she and her FH (you did say they are engaged right) need to discuss together, not fight about in your living room. I fall somewhere in between you and your friend, as to what I'm comfortable with my FH doing. It does not bother me if he goes to a strip club, I'm fine if he's looking, I just don't want any touching going on. Which is why I've let him know that I'd rather he didn't have stripper at his bachelor party (as the bachelor, its very likely that he'll have lots of attention on him, if you know what I mean). He resepcts my wishes (and admits that he'd rather not have a lap dance from a stripper anyway).

Teexoxo - I completely understand where you are coming from and agree with you 100%. I'll keep some of my opinions to myself because I know everyone has different morals. I just don't see a big deal about strip clubs. They come home to us. They're not going to try and cheat. Men like to look. Heck I can appreciate a nice set of tata's. LOL. But your friends should have had the conversation after they left your house. Not put the two of you in the middle.

Just to share, I know one of our friends who went to a strip club for his BP. They literally BEAT him. Each one of his friends got to take turns whooping his butt with a belt. Let me tell you, he could not have enjoyed it from what I heard. I thought it was just cruel. Luckily he was drunk enough not to remember all of it, but had bruises as a reminder.

I dont think the issue here is the strip club, she shouldnt be making it about herself and thats exactly what she is doing. Honestly, my bachelorette party was at a club and my cousin couldnt go bc of her fiance that didnt let her go at the last minute, and I was really disappointed. To say that your fs should just be understanding about his bm not being able to go is unrealistic to me and unfair. and btw, some strip clubs have pool tables and stuff...my dh went to a strip club and yes he got a lap dance bc his bm got him one but he could have played pool and would have been happy

First of all can't nobody argue at my house except me and Fh and I will kick you out for disrespecting us and our home!

2nd the way a couple resolves problems and disagreements is a true test of whether they are ready to move to the next stage of their relationship(communication is key!)

I have found that most women who have a problem with their men going to strip clubs have never been to a club before and I think they should go it is probably nothing like you think and there is a greater chance that a man will cheat with someone he already knows or works with!It also boggles my mind how a grown arse person can give another grown arse person rules and limitations that is not a husband&wife relationship that is a parent&child relationship!Lastly I gave strict instruction to fh's groomsmen that he better have a good time and strippers or I will kill them!!LOL If you say you trust someone than that's it!you can't say I trust you but!

@Tee sorry you had to deal with that !!

You could say she is making this about herself, but you could also say she was so upset that you just completely dismissed her feelings. You are supposed to be her friend- and as she has serious problems with her FH being in a strip club. You completely blew that off like you don't care how she feels. I can see why she is upset.

I don't care for me FH going to strip clubs (without me anyway). I'm not going to freak out about it, and I'm like you- as long as he tells me, I'm cool with it. But I don't really like it. I'm not threatened by it, but I just don't like the idea of another woman rubbing on my man. That's mine!

You need to smooth this out with her. Apoligize for dismissing her feelings and her opininos, but not for having your own opinions on the issue. You can be sorry for the fight without being sorry for the cause.

Amen Sierra! I am sorry tee she really must not trust him and I wonder how her FS feels about all of this?

Just the other day I was driving down the street alone. There was this guy walking ahead of me - he had basketball shorts on, no shirt, and the longest most beautiful dreadlocks I have seen on a man in AGES. He was BUILT and BEAUTIFUL and since God gave me eyes I looked and looked HARD, lol.

But I didn't even think about stopping to talk to him. I didn't care what his name was or where he was going. He was just a little eye candy, thats all.

I feel that if my FS goes to a strip club for his batch party, I will be OK. What ever girl he sees there will just be eye candy -while he has the full meal in me. ;-)

personal preference towards strippers is moot point, that was beyound tacky to drag you into an arguement. Next time she tries that, tell her to shove it. Its not fair for her to make you uncomfortable simply because she's misery and wants some company

Meagan-

First of all, I did not dismiss her feelings. I tried to pacify her and I've already talked to her this morning making sure she's okay. I don't appreciate you assuming I didn't support her, I did. But I don't think just because I'm okay with my FS going I should have to apologize. Not going to happen. If she doesn't want her man to go then he doesn't need to go. However when someone comes to your house and starts cussing all over the place and threatening to leave their spouse because of you and your FS then you can tell me how you'd feel about it.I'm venting on here because I don't appreciate being thrown in the middle of their fight, nor that they decided to do it in front of us.

Don't come to my house and start dropping the F bomb and screaming about leaving your fiance in front of me, and then expect me to apologize.

Sorry, touchy subject I guess.

Tee has a right to be upset when a couple didnt need to cause a scene in Tee's house. Tee is a good friend and she had a right to try to stay out of their issue. It was very rude of the friend to pull Tee into the drama with friend's fiance. It is disrespectful

I don't see what the big deal is about the bach party is all about. yeah i know that some guys cheat, but if that's the case they prob have been cheating from the gate. i told my FH he can have strippers and do whatever he wants as long as he comes home in one piece and nothing bad happens. i want him to have fun like i know i will. i don't want strippers i just want to go out and drink and have a good time wit the girls and my FH doesn't like going to strip clubs any ways.

This one's for you Analy!

Im with you on this on Tierra, you dont want your man going to a strip club, FINE. That you opinion and you can run with. However the conversation and arguement of him going is for your got D*** house not mine. Also just because we are friends doesnt mean I have to pacify you and agree with you because I dont. If you insist on asking me my opinion Im going to give to my honest one. So we can agree to disagree. However if you decide to disagree and make it an arguement with your FS do that shyt at your own house.

Everyone is always going to have differing opinions on this subject. Some women are ok with it, some are not, it's just the way it is. If everyone always had the same opinion, then world would be a pretty boring place.

Personally, I see nothing wrong with strip clubs at all. Myself, FH and our friend just went last Friday actually. FH went for his BIL's bachelor party and I full encouraged him to go. We are doing a joint party that will end up at the strip clubs as well. (female only, I'm not into male strippers lol)

I do understand that some people aren't comfortable with it, and that's understandable, but they definitely should not fight and argue in someone else's home, I think THAT is rude, and it's also rude when they try to bring other people into it. I've been in that situation before and it sucks for all involved.

I hope your friends work it out and don't let it ruin their relationship. I'm sure they would both regret it afterwards.

Shaunie-- You hit the nail right on the head!

Theresa- I hope so too. I've talked to her since then and she says they're fine, but that she thinks he doesn't respect her. Which I told her, if you don't want him to go then he should respect her feelings. I'm sure it's all going to work out.

*your feelings, sorry lack of caffeine

Megan - I disagree with you and I think you are wrong for telling tee she has to apologize for something that she had no business being drug into in the first place. Yes they have been friends for year "whatever" her opinion is still her opinion and there is no reason for to say "yes your are right" if she doesn't really beleive that she is right or isn't even in a position to make that determination. The apology is owed TO Tee not FROM Tee. This girls should be ashamed of the way she behaved! Not only did she act like a child by throwing a tantrum but she made the hosts feel uncomfortable in their own home for making their won decisions! I'm not celar here as how you think this person deserves an apology? Can you clairfy?

Oh no .... this topic is a sore one for me :o) ... See I guess my issue isn't so much the trust... as it is common sense. I honestly think that it is like playing with fire... you give a guy a drink and set a naked woman on his lap something is bound to happen. I have known several strippers and married ones at that; they have told me no way 100% would they allow it in their relationship for a bach party specifically. Like I said a few drinks in and something is bound to happen. It isnt about trust with men they are visual by nature... and sadly most cannot control themselves. I feel better at night knowing I am not putting candy infront of a baby you know? I guess in many ways I am insecure but my fs knows this and he also knows my stance on the situation period. I have talked to him several times throughout the past 5 years and just refuse to be that girl walking towards the alter knowing there is a chance something happened... Ugh this topic does turn my tummy... :o(