Bachelor Parties! RANT

Thats exactly what i did.. She still insisted on posting her feeliungs on FB, seriously.. your 28 years old.. grow up!

Hahaha dont listen to that kind of people

I don't personally like it. I hate the 'idea' of strip clubs, and everything they stand for. When I was single,I went to a male review once, and I was little uncomfortable but once I started drinking, I relaxed a little. But I could never in good conscience do that now, when I am not single. It just feels disrespectful and wrong. That type of thing should be only for single men and women. Thank god he doesn't even want that for his bachelor party. He wants to just go to Dave and busters and hang out, and drink a couple beers w/ the guys.

"I trust my husband but I don't want him at a strip club. Luckily they make him uncomfortable"

I think that about sums up my FH and me

But anyways, yea i can see why youre getting annoyed. I'd just ignore her.

Sounds to me like she has some insecurities - either with her trust in him or her own issues. Heck I told FH's best man he has to take him - even for 10 min. Im part of the itty bitty club so I figure this is his last chance to see a more well endowed lady in person. Strip clubs are Cinemax in 3D - I have seen a lot worse in neighborhood bars. This is your FH's party - if you dont have a problem with it than anyone else that does doesnt have to come.

Posting on FB - I would call her out on that immediately!

Ignore her. She is grabbing for attention, thats all. You also don't know the whole picture. I know several couples personally that seem to have incredible marriages but behind the scenes you don't really know what issues they may be working on. Facebook is a horrible device when in the hands of idiots. I see people get so mad at the stupidest things, and then make public post ranting about it instead of actually talking to the people involved (in this case her husband). When people have caused me grief on facebook I deleted them. It works pretty well! I think you can also block them so you don't have to look at their status updates..just a thought.

As far as the strip club, thats between her and her husband. If FH or I was invited to go to a strip club he would decline and so would I. We do enjoy to go out and party sometimes but don't do strip clubs, and it has nothing to do with trust. Just a personal choice for us

She may feel you are talking down to her..like when you say you trust your FH in that manner , like I'm glad I have that type of trust, it may insinuate to her that you are saying "I trust my FH and it means you don't trust your husband since you don't want him to go." you may not mean it, but that's how it could come across..just because someone doesn't want their FH to go to a strip club does not automatically mean she doesn't trust him.

Honestly, you should just talk to FH about the issue, or her first..i mean on WW we can all speculate about it/the issues, but it's just pointless if you don't find out yourself, or just be fine with the GM not going...FMS was dead on, it's not your place to interfere in their marital issue just to celebrate your up-coming wedding.

I would not post coments on Facebook that would seem to downgrade someone but like her I would not want my FH to go to a strip club and as long as he is with me he will not go. He respects my wishes on that and really does not want to go anyway. I have been to a strip club with a few friends from my unit and had to wait for one guy who was in the back screwing one of the strippers. And we knew what he was doing cause we wanted to leave so we walked back there to find him and e had her bent over the chair. It can happen and I don't want to have to worry like that. My FH does not even want a night out with the guys he wants everyone to go out to eat and maybe come back to te house for a few drinks oh an by everyone I mean me and te whole bridal party lol.

Ignore anymore of her posts, block her posting feed if you want, and only talk to her about it if she directly talks to you about it. If she's whining and complaining, just tell her that it's an issue between her and her husband to discuss and it's none of your business. I hope to she gets this straightened out soon, I'm sure the rest of her FB friends are sick of reading it too.

I don't know what to think about the whole bachelor party/stripper thing.....I don't get the whole point of it....why would you want some hoe dancing all over your face...hell....I can get a pole and do all those things that a stripper will/can do...

My fh has not mentioned anything about a bachelor party

I think you are judging her without knowing the whole story.

First, how do you know he doesn't know about the pics? How do you know he isn't the one taking the pics.

Second, Lingerie pics are WAY different than stripping so to equate the two is inane.

Third, Some people don't want their husband looking at other naked women. Has nothing to do with not "trusting" him, but just not want him to. Some guys feel the same way about their wife seeing a naked man.

Fourth, He may have done something you don't know about to make him untrustworthy. If he was caught doing something bad, he may be on probation.

Bottom line, you don't know the whole story and you should respect what is between them in their marriage instead of trying to undermine her.

As a chauffuer for 22 years I have done many bachelor/bachelorette partis. Most bachelor parties are actually pretty mild. They have a reputation but generally the one I have done were mild. The bachlorette parties have been stopped by the police and pretty rowdy. I have never done a bachelor party that came up to the shenanigans that have occurred on several ladies parties.