Bachelor Party and Strippers

I think you should let it go. I used to go to strip clubs with some of the guys (and girls) I worked with when I was working at a restaurant. Everyone just drank and talked at one of the tables and a lot of the surrounding tables were doing the same thing. I don’t really see it as cheating. That being said, I would be concerned if my husband was regularly scheduling guys night out at a strip club. There’s just no need as a married man. However I wouldn’t get mad if he was in a bachelor party that was going to one. But also, I know my husband and I know he’s not sleazy and he has a conscience. I know he would say no if things got inappopriatr, I know he would leave if the situation was bordering on being unfaithful, and I know he would put me first no matter how “tempted” he was. Jacks brings up a real problem. But honestly? If a man just says “yes” to a sex show including penetration and licking, no woman telling him she doesn’t like it is going to have any affect on him. Men don’t just fall into that trap and do it because they’re forced to, they do it because they want to. It’s aggressive, sleazy, and just as much a reflection on the man as the escort. I dated someone long term who told me he was kicked out of a strip club for doing something inappropriate to a stripper. Wanna know why we didn’t stay together? Sleaziness and lack of trust. H, meanwhile, has told me about going to strip clubs and he is just not that person. He even opted out of a strip club for his bachelor party even though I told him it was fine. If you trust your FH, he’s not a sleazy guy, just let the pieces fall where they may. He could end up just sitting there, drinking beer, and laughing at his party boy friends for being idiots. He might be texting you all night about the ridiculousness of everything. He may even leave if, like you said, he doesn’t even want to go in the first place. If you know he’s not the type of person to cheat and get inappropriate, he’s not going to start now. Especially when he’s being so vocal to you about his current feelings. I will say though, try to make plans the night of his bachelor party so you’re distracted. We did our parties the same weekend and it was nice because I had all my girlfriends so I didn’t have time to worry about anything. But H and I sill texted all day and night, anyways.

My fiancé and I both decided no strippers. None for him and none for me. Neither of us are comfortable with it. When he jokingly brought it up, I 100% agreed and we made almost like an agreement on it.

In regards to the boys... I would have your fiancé be serious with them. Listen guys, I know you have a bunch planned, but no strippers and I’m serious. I’m not comfortable with it and neither is she. The guys should respect his decision if he’s serious and not joking about it.

He’s a grown men and it’s his bachelorette not his friends if he doesn’t want one he should tell his friends and they should respect that and if they don’t than they know their asking for trouble , theres so many other fun things to do than a strip club

Yeah, I'm not down with it either tbh, but if I tell my FBIL that, he will go all out. I wouldn't say anything, I think he has done what he can, and it stinks they won't respect his wishes, but there is nothing more you can do.

I would be extremely upset if my FH's guys got him anywhere near a stipper (no offense to strippers). Unfortunately, there isn't anything you can do if the guys still go ahead and get one. All you can do is trust in your FH. He should stand up for himself you and respect your wishes as well.

View Quoted Comment I agree 100 percent you are not alone!

View Quoted Comment Oh wow is this a common thing?

View Quoted Comment That ia great, how do you know the friends listened?

Just know this ladies, a lot of the times the Bachelor party is just an excuse for the FH friends/grooms to get away from their relationship for a little bit. They use the excuse of the Bachelor party so they can go out and drink, sometimes get wild and act like if is their party too.

I am not saying that they are cheating, just that is a time for the guys to have a guys time and not worry about their girls/wife. A lot of us guys act different around our girls and when we are around our guy friends alone we are a total different person. We can act foolish and not having the girl trying to correct them from talking or acting a certain way.

Is a time that the guy and his friends will drink and talk about past experiences or crazy memories of things they have done etc. A great way to build more memories and something to talk about in the years to come.