bachelor party fears

I was a little unhappy to hear the guys talking about Las Vegas. However plans have changed and they are not going to Vegas anymore. I can't say that I was worried because I trust FH. I was more concerned about his friends doing something stupid.

FH has been talking about Vegas for this bacholor party since before we were engaged. Even more so since "The Hangover" came out. Then we saw his cousin who said congrats and then looked at FH and said "Vegas for the Bparty, right" then proceded to tell me how the last Bparty in Vegas he went to ended up with the groom going to the hospital. So yea... I'm a little concerned about it....

I would be concerned more with how much drinking is going on than with anything else really. FH is so devoted to me, that I truly have no worries about him straying.

It is BM I am worried about!! It is so far away that they haven't said anything yet about it, but again, just mainly worried about how much drinking will be going on and who will be driving that night. But I think if I tell FH honestly what worries me, he will make sure that it all gets worked out so that there will be a Designated Driver.

I broke up with Todd (the first time we dated) because I was a head case about his potential bachelor party, and we weren't even engaged. It is nervewracking to see the movies and hear the stories of what could happen. What it comes down to is, even if there is a strip club or dancer involved in the party, your fiance is in love with you. I agree with Bella, just talk about it with him when you feel calm, and let him know that even though you love and trust him, that it's just something in the back of your mind. The dancing girl is generally there for the single friends anyway. They do their dance, no one's allowed to touch or someone gets handled messily.

Actually not to scare any ladies but I actually know a stripper that was a dancer for many years. I went to high school with her. She kept her head about her and stayed away from crap but a lot of girls don't. Many drink a lot, have drug issues and often do "side work" for money if you get my drift. She did a lot of athletic stuff on the bar and asked me to come watch her once but I declined. I didn't want to have an image of her dancing in my head. Point being, there are plenty of ladies in these clubs that do things that supposedly aren't allowed. Just say'n

I have no worries or fear when it comes to my FH bach party. They are going to Atlantic City for golf and gambling. He doesn't drink and neither does the best man. He may drink a little that night but nothing out of control. Besides, my dad, my stepdad and FH's dad will be there to. So I know that no funny business will be going on. But regardless we totally trust each other.

Yea my FH is having 2 parties lol, one is Jamaica potentially and one somewhere else, i'm not concerned with him cheating just all the other crap that happens at the parties and all the horror stories you hear, but from reading all the responses i feel much better, thanks ladies, it will be fine!!

Ok. So Leyila, my fh was acting the same way. He doesn't want strippers but he's to much of a chicken to say no to his friends. He asked how I felt about it and I said "I'm not to excited about naked girls sticking their t*ts in your face. But I won't stop you. You can look all you want but just know that if you touch in ANY way shape or form you will have hell to pay when you come home to me!" Lol he knows I'm not bluffing and I trust him any way but I told him what's good for him is good for me too. If he's having strippers I am too. So he seems more likey to tell his buddies no now. He knows I'm not sitting home with potato chips and wine coolers while he's having naked chicks all over him...hahaha haaaaale no

I'm not worried only because my FH doesn't care for strip clubs and he loves chill bars. What happens there that could be totally aweful??

If the guy is a cheater, he will cheat - he won't need strippers, bachelor parties, single friends or alcohol to egg him on.

If he loves you and respects no matter if he is drinking, 1/2 naked women or single friends egging him on will make him cheat on you. Trust him, respect him and if not, then question why you don't? If he has never given you a reason, then maybe it is something inside of you that makes you fear that? insecurity? jealousy?

I think a guy who has those tendencies is more apt to cheat at a regular nightclub where he has a chance of getting laid then at a strip club.

Not concerned at all. I told him not to suck on any titties otherwise ill go suck whip cream off some guys weinis!! haha I mean it too! But hes going to a strip club, if he was getting a stripper in a hotel room then id be a little concerned. Not cause him or his friends, but you cant trust those slutty strippers!

I trust my man. I dislike in home strippers and prefer him to go strip club with his friends because they get way out of line and at a strip club they cant. Last time we had a in home stripper things went horrible. So the booze and a bunch of horny single guys and a stripper in the comfort of home is a recipe for disaster in my experience.

Wheres the like button for Hayley M. post lol

I think that everyone has those fears just a bit. But if you trust FH that all that matters. It's not even close to ours yet and yes I have those fears but we also talk about when that day come too. So my mind has put at ease from that fear. Trust is the key.

This is a tough sutuation all around. I Don't like the idea of my FH going to the strippers, but I trust him AND...thats a big AND I trust his friends! Really when you think about it, your FH picks his very best friends to stand up for him at his wedding, and usually those guys are present at the batchelor party. Everyone should be responsible for themselves first of all, but really the groomsmen along with the other guys there are responsible for the groom. I have an amazing relationship with all of my FH friends, and I believe they all like me and respect me. Therefore I have no worries for anything to happen to my FH as they wouldn't ever let it happen. This includes getting too drunk all the way to strippers and inappropriate behavior.

@ Nicole: We're doing a joint party too. We have the same friends and it's been that way for a long time. My best friend is actually a guy so it would suck not to spend that night hanging out with him as well. This was all FH's idea too so I don't feel that guilty "depriving" him of an all guy night, which he told me he didn't want anyways

Talk to him about it and tell him your concerns. If it truly makes you uncomfortable and he loves and respects you, he won't do it.