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Bachelor party...tmi

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Krystle, on January 14, 2019 at 8:52 AM

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So my fiance and I had a argument over his bachelor party, I came home from work yesterday and he pops off with I can't wait for the strippers. So I told him I don't agree with that at all and how would he feel if some man was rubbing all over me and touching me? And his response was well don't tell me what happens at your bachelorette party and I won't tell you what happens at mine. It hurt my feelings because we have always had an open line of communication. The plan up until now was a weekend hunting trip with his guys, and now its changed so he can impress his friends? How are their feelings about this more important than mine? Just too add, I was 18 once so I know how the gentlemen club here works. (Not as a stripper)

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Alejandra · on January 14, 2019 at 5:31 PM
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I totally agree with this, out of the whole post those words ate at me the worst. Felt almost as if he was saying it in a inappropriate manner. If you are not comfortable with the situation then I think it should matter that much to your FH to take a step back and take another look. I was very open to my FH about my bachelorette party and would let him know when I'd get back to the hotel so he'd know I was safe, we want to be able to still have our space while trusting and communicating with each other.
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Holly · on January 14, 2019 at 6:33 PM
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The whole idea around bachelor parties at strip clubs being the last chance you'll get to see another woman naked before you're married is silly and immature, but I personally wouldn't have a problem with my FH going to one because I trust him. The issue I would have is him telling me he's excited about it. Why are you telling your fiancée you're excited to see another woman take her clothes off?! That's inappropriate and hurtful. Like everyone else is saying, you should talk to him about it because you don't want to hold a grudge against your husband.
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Krystle · on January 15, 2019 at 10:41 AM
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My FH and I have talked and I was able to make him understand how it crushed me. He decided to do a weekend fishing trip with his buddies whom he hunts with instead. Thank you ladies for the understanding responses, kind words, and suggestions.
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Laurie · on June 25, 2019 at 7:55 PM
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I agree with you 100000%. I think it's completely disrespectful and disgusting. No need for it at all! I've mentioned it to my FH and I'm sure it'll come up again. Absolutely NOT ok with me. I would be a no-show if I found out.
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Brittanie · on July 3, 2019 at 3:45 PM
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I'm late on this but I agree with not having strippers tbh. My husband and I are young and yeah it's all fun and games but the reality of it is that if you really feel the need to be felt up by, or to feel all over other (naked) women before you look me in the face in front of everyone we know and make important vows like it didn't happen, then that's just not someone I can happily walk down the isle to. My husband and I already made our commitment and eloped while he was in the Navy and because of our religious views (and the fact that those party activities are things most people do BEFORE they're already married), we decided on no strippers for either of us, but instead getting our wedding party together and all of us just going out and drinking and having fun together. I'm sure his groomsmen aren't ecstatic about it but it's what we agreed on as an already-married couple just wanting a wedding so our family and friends will be included. We've already been legally married for 2 years so there's no sense in ruining it now lol
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Shannon · on July 3, 2019 at 7:58 PM
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I really don't care if FH would want to go to a strip club. I mean, I'd even go with him. Not a big thing in my mind.
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