Hello everyone! I’m having a bit of a dilemma and I kind of just need to vent but I also need good advice as to what I should do or how I should handle the situation.
Just a few details:
My wedding is in September 2020
My future sister in law is quite a bit controlling and has said some things to our family that has tainted my mom and sister’s view of her.
My mom, my sisters (also my MOHs) and I have been through a lot this past year. My sisters are in college and do not have a lot of money, and my mom just started out on her own so she doesn’t have a lot of money either.
Now for the issue: Everything has been so busy that we have not discussed a bridal shower or bachelorette party at all with my mom or my MOHs, who are supposed to plan the events from my understanding.
Now, my future sister in law has expressed to my mom that she wants to help with the bridal shower and will pay for a venue if they wanted to. My mom said that it’s fine and she will take care of it. Which has my future sister in law upset because she wants to help plan, which I understand, but now it’s like she’s trying to kind of just take the whole thing out from my mom and my sisters/MOHs. I understand that they don’t have the money to throw something extravagant (I’m really not about that anyway) but I want ALL of my family—future and present—to plan together.
I’m not supposed to know that these conversations between my mom and my future sister in law have taken place. So how do I address that I want them all to work together (even though it’s hard for my sister in law to work together with anyone without controlling the situation, which is why I think my mom has some reservations about including her) without letting on that I know, or being to forward?
And for the bachelorette, I’m just worried that my sisters have too much on their plates to plan for it, and I don’t want to be pushy by asking them... I was thinking that the entire bachelorette party could plan it together? And maybe then my sister in law would feel included in the planning and let my mom and sisters plan the bridal shower?
I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m just so stressed with all these extra thoughts on what should be happening. I know that they are just trying to help but still...
Any and all help is appreciated!
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