Bachelorette annoyances

Sorry about all that's happening. Maybe your sister spoke up for the others and the girls really don't want a weekend away. Is it pricey? Some people don't like to put their finances out there and maybe it's more expensive than they were expecting.

I'm sorry to hear that, I went through the same stress and pretty much planned mine on my own. Would it be possible to do some kind of staycation with your bridesmaids? I don't know if you're all in the same area, but you could get a local airbnb so that you could still have a celebration and your sister doesn't have to travel

You stated this, "I said that we all already agreed on it, and thats what I wanted to do so we still would be going." - was that in the chat and was that the tone? If so, I might be less inclined to respond then. Not saying what they are doing is right or wrong, just saying that if your message came across harsh, maybe it was misunderstood and now everyone feels like you're forcing it on them.

While I never think ignoring someone is a good communication strategy, I'd take their lack of response as a strong indication that, for whatever reasons, they are no longer (if they ever really were) on board with a weekend away. It could be cost, it could be Covid, it could be anything, but I'd assume they don't want to do it and stop trying to plan something. In lots of groups, all of the planning and inquiries would have been handled by the bridal party, not the bride, so there might be an element where you're coming across as too directive/pushy. (Not saying you are, just raising the possibility that others might interpret your behavior that way.) If you've been driving this from the beginning, they may have individually had reasons for not being enthusiastic, but didn't want to be "that person" who says, "sorry, I'm not available for that." These are significantly crazier times that usual. I get that as a bride you want a typical experience, but it might be best to accept that typical stuff just isn't happening now and back off. If any of them want to put together a bachelorette plan for you, I'd be appreciative of whatever they come up with. Sorry....

I'd just pick a reasonably priced house (probably similar to the other one everyone you agreed on) and book it. Text everyone, tell them & they will probably show up. The risk with a house is if 1 person bails, everyone is on the hook for more. But if you want to do a house instead of a hotel, that's just a risk.

I kind of agree with this too. I hate to say this but while bachelorettes are beautiful and as a bride if you have a specific idea of what you want then you need to be wiling to plan and pay for. Any time I have been a bridesmaid I, with the other bridal party members, planned the bachelorette for the bride and it was the bride to be cool with what we do and just let us know she wants to be avail for that date. Now I know in my head how I would like my bachelorette to be but at the end of the day I am gonna leave it up to my MOH and be grateful for what she wants. I think as others have said their lack of response basically answers your question. Here are a few questions I have for you:

1 - Would you be willing to speak to your sister, I know you say she has been difficult, and ask her why she changed all of a sudden? Do you still want her as MOH? I do not want you two fighting but maybe do not give her major responsibilities??

2 - Would you be willing to stay a bit more local and rent an Air BNB and invite ladies to stay but on your dime? I understand that everyone should pay their own way or help out but it seems that since they are not responding maybe they no longer want to travel out of town. I, at one point, was considering getting a hotel for a bachelorette evening but I was not going to expect anyone else to pay as that was what I wanted and not something suggested to me.

3 - I know it is against tradition but who cares-- are you okay planning your own bachelorette? I mean as MOB So Cal says maybe staying local is best. Crazy times, COVID concerns plus budget issues which sometimes people do not feel comfortable talking about, maybe having the big getaway you want is not possible and just do a night out???

Not trying to be difficult but just giving some other perspective.

Maybe text people individually - they may not want to share any budget issues they're having in a group chat. Plus it puts people on the spot if you send them an individual text asking for their input.

I also think 1-on-1 conversations would be best, and not just because of finances. In my experience, people are also all over the spectrum in their responses/reactions to Covid-19 behaviors as well, and in some groups diverse opinions are not openly accepted. Just yesterday we saw some friends (in a socially distanced outdoors location) and the conversation about opinions related to Covid became very heated and polarized, with most thinking it's overblown/political/etc., I understand where they are coming from, but given that people are getting really sick and dying, I tend to be much more conservative -- at least with taking precautions. However, the conversation got so heated that I just didn't participate. In addition to pp's mention of people being sensitive about their finances, I think some people are also uncomfortable sharing publicly how concerned they may be or not be with issues related to the pandemic for fear of being attacked/ridiculed for their views.