Bachelorette Cost

You shouldn't be planning your bachelorette. Also, to be 100% honest, bachelorette parties are simply suppose to be a party. An entire weekend is ridiculous.

You let them plan it and decide you have minimal say.

A weekend away sounds pricey. Keep it to a night out on the town with the girls.

The last one i went to we went to Miami for a weekend. We Did a vacation rental and split the costs it was 13 of us we paid $180 each (for food and party bus and accommodations) plus flights which were $165.

Thanks everyone for the advice! Two of my bridesmaids are flying in from Dubai for my bachelorette and I kinda wanted to make it worth their while, that's why I was thinking a weekend away

Depending on the crowd it may happen. My friends seem to be planning a weekend getaway. So that's nice. Maybe yours will too. If they want to.

Personally I think the destination bachelorette parties are too much. People already spend enough on your wedding when they are in it, they should not be spending vacation money on your bachelorette party on top of that.

You may have your secret desires, but you only express them if you are asked by the hosts. If asked, you should also inquire first about their desired budget before you bring up the subject of a weekend away.

Some social circles may find this normal, but for others it would be well beyond most people's budgets.

All my friends live in different states, so they'll all have to travel too. My best friend is so excited she's already started planning and asking what I want to do! To be honest I'll probably send a very honest note to a lot of my friends that I know traveling for two events is A LOT and that they are absolutely invited and included in everything... but that I really am not offended if they just choose to travel for one I think I have some friends that would rather do the Bachelorette than the wedding anyway LOL

I just did one in NOLA and while it was fun (until it wasn't anymore... cousin is a huge bridezilla) it was soooo expensive. So much so that I wish I hadn't gone because it was $$$

I would stay out of the planning aspect. Even if someone doesn't offer to host a destination bachelorette it doesn't mean you can't spend the extra time with your friends who are traveling internationally. I think you can plan events that are separate from the bachelorette.

I just got back from my bachelorette party in Nashville. We went for 3 days it was a great time. We had a smaller group then we would have if we did a night out around home but my sister planned it and those who could afford it came and those who couldn't are taking me out for a night on the town!

I would talk to your MOH and see what they are thinking and give her ideas of what you want to possibly do!

My girls threw me a weekend bachelorette and for the rental house and groceries (we made dinner at the house on Friday, breakfast on Sat and did a restaurant Sat night) it ended up being about $120 per person.

You don't get involved. Whoever is planning it will consult with your bridal party about cost. If she asks for feedback you can give it but personally I think it's really unfair to event hint or suggest a weekend trip somewhere. It's so expensive and as soon as you say that's what you want, it puts the planner in a spot of sucking up the cost if they don't want to or disappointing you.

I think $100 a person is fair for a bachelorette

I get you want to make the friends from Dubai have an awesome time but if they're flying in for it, they'll know ahead of time what they're signing up for.

If someone is flying in from Dubai, I'd go out of my way to make sure the bachelorette was not an extra over the top expense, you know?

I"m ancient, but I also think these destination, multi day bachelorette parties are over the top. AND you shouldn't be planning it anyway.

I'd also spend 100 bucks. And one day/evening.

The girls rented a cabin at a state park for a weekend so we are going to BBQ it up one night and the next go out to dinner and get some drinks.

I read cost as cast and thought this was about the show. I didn't read the OP so idk.

I've spent 1k for a bachelorette in Vegas that required flights. For mine my MOH is planning a weekend cabin and boating trip at the lake, which is only an hour and a half drive from our town. One bridesmaid is having to fly and I'm buying her ticket. For the total cost of cabin, boat, booze and food for the whole weekend it's ending up at $240pp, which is in everyone's budget. I think weekend destination bachelorette parties are so fun! They're the norm in my group. Is there somewhere fun that's driving distance so people don't have to pay for airfare? Vacation rentals are nice because you usually fit more people so per person costs are lower, plus they have kitchens so you can bring your own food and not have to eat out for every meal.

A lot of people will say that the weekend bachelorette parties are over the top, but in my case (and I'm sure a lot of other people's as well) my bridesmaids are spread between Buffalo, Chicago, and Washington DC, while I live in Boston. So no matter where we held it, people would have had to travel, and likely for an entire weekend. We ended up picking Toronto, and although it will certainly be more expensive than a single night out at a local bar, everyone seems pretty excited for it.

That said, I should echo what other people are saying, which is that you shouldn't be the one planning this, because that is in effect dictating how much the bridal party will have to spend. But if they ask for your input, I don't see the problem with letting them know your ideas. You know your friends better than we do, if weekend trips are a norm and people are both able and willing to pay for a more lavish bachelorette party, then why not?