Bachelorette Etiquette

I think everyone should contribute. It's not called a Bride Tribe for nothing. :-)
But seriously, I remember for my sister's shower I was the MOH and all the bridesmaids helped with paying for things and setting up.

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Thank you for the input. How did you ask the other ladies? We all live in diff states and I've already asked for their contribution to hotel and I feel a little weird asking for more money

For my friend’s bachelorette the MOH asked what our drink / snack preferences were and then just asked us for money. She didn’t make a big deal about it and nobody had an issue chipping in.

My fiance just finished a bachelor party like that. One person fronted the money and everyone just split the bill at the end. You could also just all go get food/drinks when you get there if you want it all split when you get there.

No because any time that I've helped organize a bachelorette party the bride does not pay. There's been an instance where the maid of honor and the mom paid for everything and then there are times that we as the bride tribe provide everything.

I think that's totally fine. Just tell everyone "hey I think it would be a good idea to have some snacks for the room, would everyone be ok with chipping in $XX so I can stock up?" Realistically it will be cheaper to have stuff in the room than to constantly order food or go looking for snacks/drinks at the hotel restaurant or vending machines.

I'd text the group and say "Hey guys! I'll go pick up snacks/drinks for the weekend. If y'all want to give me some ideas of what to get, I'll price it and let you know how much the cost will be per person! Thanks!" That way it's not a question and you just seem helpful. lol

Definitely not tacky. You could ask what everyone's preferences are and have them chip in or you could make suggestions and have people bring snacks and drinks. Or you could always just hit the store when you all get there if you have some extra time.

Definitely wouldn't hurt to ask for people to chip in. There's no reason the MOH should cover everything for the Bach trip. But I would make sure everyone is on the same page before leaving. I went to a bachelorette trip to NOLA and people were angry because the MOH was not upfront about everything and costs were not split equally.

I would ask the girls what they would prefer. Would they prefer to be in charge of bringing specific things? Do they have the budget to pay you $20 or so for snacks & drinks? My MOH bought waaaaaaay too many snacks for my weekend bachelorette in Palm Springs. Like so much food, it was overwhelming. I think a few of the girls were annoyed by how much she spent on food because they had to pitch in. It would have been a lot easier just to be like "you bring water bottles", "you bring breakfast snacks", "you bring hangover snacks", etc.

View Quoted Comment I can completely understand that it's always a little uneasy asking people for money. But I just told them my plan and said "every little bit helps us make this day and time special for her" and we all live in different states including the bride. A few of us were in MD, bride in GA and a few on CT. Everything was done via email or texting.