Having a bachelorette isn't super important to me, but I think it could be fun. However, I'm only having my best friend as my MOH and no other bridesmaids, and she doesn't live in the area and knows very few of the people invited to our wedding. I had pretty much resolved to not having a bachelorette because I didn't want her to feel pressure to take time off work or travel, and since there aren't any other bridesmaids involved she hasn't really had a group of girls to connect with or coordinate. As we get closer to our wedding and my FH is reaching out to his groomsmen a lot, I'm starting to feel a little like I'm missing out and focusing all my time and energy on the wedding itself but not giving myself any space to have any other fun associated with being a fiance or bride-to-be.
Originally, before I was engaged, my MOH and I always talked about just going camping and drinking around a campfire for a bachelorette, but the timing of our wedding kinda nixes that plan. Then I thought it would be super fun to go to the Kentucky Derby (my best friend and I met through horses when we were in middle school, and we'd get to dress up in ridiculous outfits and enjoy cocktails while being "classy") and she loves the idea, but I don't want her having to pay my way because she doesn't have any other BM to split the cost with and it could be a lot to swing just weeks before the wedding. My MOH doesn't have contact info for any of my other girlfriends or even my FH, so I know she isn't secretly planning something right now. My FH wants me to do some pre-wedding fun and said he was just going to have his groomsmen's wives and some other girl friends nearby take me out, but I know my MOH would be really upset if I had a bachelorette girls night and she wasn't involved (she'd feel both guilty/bad for not putting it together, and disappointed that she didn't get to celebrate with me). My MOH is about a 4 hour drive, so travel isn't super inconvenient or expensive, but its also a full day round trip, so not something someone can just do easily without any planning either. Going to her wouldn't be an option because none of my other friends could be involved, and I kinda hate the area we grew up in (where she still lives) anyway, so it wouldn't be fun for me.
I know its bad etiquette to ask for a party, but if the MOH isn't planning anything is there a way to broach the topic? Is it rude to "accept" a party from someone who isn't a bridesmaid or related to the bride or groom? I don't want to force my MOH to do anything but I don't want to just miss out because she isn't doing anything, and I don't want to hurt her feelings by participating in something she can't be a part of.
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