Bachelorette Help

I’d probably approach my MOH telling her I was concerned about bachelorette party budget for everyone traveling and let her take the lead on contacting everyone about their ability to participate and alternative ideas. My MOH really wants to take me to Vegas (which I know my other MOH and friends I’d like to include can’t afford) and FH wants to do a joint bachelor/bachelorette so we’ll see what happens. I’m sure your ladies will come up with something fun for you.

I'd consult your MOH soon and tell her you want something local (wherever you want). Regardless it sounds like people will have to travel (whether it's to the wedding or bachelorette) so I'd tell her to give as much notice as possible too for budgeting. My MOH planned in August 2018 for my May 2019 bachelorette. My bach was in Palm Springs and 6 bridesmaids came. One drove 6 hours from AZ, one flew 1 hour from SF, and the other 4 drove 2 hours. All but 1 bridesmaid had to fly to CO for the wedding.

I would ask the MOH what she thinks. Maybe approach each Bridesmaid on their own and ask them if Nashville is out of budget. Tell them you have an equally fun idea in Maine and not to worry if they can't do Nashville.
That being said I live in MA and while I could likely afford a trip to Nashville I would honestly decline to go, it's a bachelorette not your wedding. You might love it but sometimes destination bachelorettes are a hassel with time off ect, you should also ask if they'd be comfortable going so far in addition to budget.

Without knowing specific circumstances, I'd think the gathering in Maine would be much more reasonable and considerate of all your friends' time & money. I'd talk with MOH and let her know you spoke without really thinking when she first asked for ideas, and you'd very much prefer to do something more local to make things easier on everyone. (We visited friends in ME last summer and had a wonderful time, so that sounds like a great idea. This is totally random, but we also stayed at an amazing Airbnb in Vermont, called the Grist Mill. It certainly didn't seem to be a partying hotspot (lol), but the historical property is amazing and right on a river with tubes to float on, and the owners/hosts were awesome.) Good luck!