Bachelorette Itinerary

Did you all come up with the itinerary together? Or is this what you planned on your own? I would have an open discussion with your friends and see what they think of the plan. Personally, I feel like that is a lot but I’m also more of an introvert.

That seems like a lot to pack into Saturday. I would eliminate one event.

I planned it myself since it’s too overwhelming to include what everyone wants to do. They should just come and enjoy whatever is planned. Okay so I think I will take off the murder mystery. I agree it is too much but I wanted to hear outside opinions. Thank you for helping me narrow it down.

I agree, this is way too much crammed into 2 days. If you planned all this, I would also eliminate the Honeymoon Shower. A bride should not be hosting their own shower and I'm sure your bms will already be spending a lot that weekend to celebrate you.

My group and I very much enjoyed being able to just lounge around Saturday afternoon after my bridal shower before going out that night. We were tired from being up the night before and planned to stay out late and go to brunch the next day. It was good to just chat and catch up with everyone.

View Quoted Comment I’m not hosting my own shower thank you very much. My matrons of honor are hosting the bachelorette. I’m just an OCD type A bride that would like to make her own schedule which isn’t uncommon & not that big of a deal. So thank you for your input that I shouldn’t host my own shower. My bridesmaids aren’t paying for anything the entire weekend - only for the rodeo tickets & the brunch. Everything else is paid for so my matrons of honor thought it would be good to do a honeymoon shower. I already took the murder mystery off the itinerary so we good

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I ended up adding some downtime instead of the murder mystery game. So that way the girls and I can catch up, relax and hang out. Thank you for that advice.

Sounds like a busy, tiring, and expensive weekend, especially since you are combining multiple bachelorette events with a shower. I would cut back by about half and have the focus being on people just hanging out and enjoying each other's company.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your input. However, It’s not really an expensive weekend. Most bachelorette have a little honeymoon shower (not really a shower just a little time to honor the bride) . It’s not anything fancy, it’s for the BM’s to get the bride a little gift like a book, a hat, a swimsuit or something little for her honeymoon. It’s typically normal to have that in a bachelorette. I have been to my share of my bachelorettes and they have done it and most girls only spend like $15& up on gifts. It’s just to honor the bride since that is partly what the whole weekend is about to celebrate and love on the bride with all her favorite people. I think what I have planned is mellow & very chill. I know all my girls and what they can handle. Everything is paid for except the rodeo, their gift (if they choose to bring one) the food and that’s it. So they aren’t spending much. I have spent $500 & up on bachelorettes- that is normal. So I appreciate your input but I think with cutting out the game, it will be more fun and relaxing. Thank you

I would cut the murder mystery, not only is it a lot for one day, after a brunch, people will likely want to take a break or a nap, especially if they've been drinking (which I've always had bottomless mimosas at every drag brunch I've been to)

Thank you so much girl!!! I appreciate the advice! I did remove murder mystery from the itinerary!! Thank you so much for your advice!!

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Actually I’ve never heard of a bachelorette having a honeymoon shower, just as a point of interest. It feels like you have high expectations here, and I would caution you to be realistic. I’m glad you dropped one of the events.

View Quoted Comment I understand that you & others may have never heard of it but it is what the people planning this want to do and I’m not going to be rude and say “no thank you” when all the girls have said they want to do this. Thank you for saying I have high expectations when we probably have different expectations and opinions on everything. I appreciate that you caution me to be realistic when I have never not once expected anything for this wedding. I just want to marry my best friend. PERIOD. Thx.