Bachelorette Party advice

I assume your MOH is planning the bachelorette? I'd just talk to her about planning something that is a day & night thing or a weekend thing. Then during the day do things like a yoga class, painting or cooking class, spa day, beach/lake/pool day, pole dancing class, etc. (something 21 & under friendly), then go out to dinner (she can still do that), then when people go to bars & whatever she can go home. Or you can start at an 18 and up club or something like a restaurant/bar so she can join for that part too.

Try and find somewhere that has alcohol but you don’t have to be 21 to get in the door. We are doing a spa party for mine where we can drink but you don’t have to. Or go to a restaurant or club that allows under 21.

I would talk to your MOH (assuming she’s planning) and discuss the possibility of having a two-part party. You could do dinner/lunch with everybody and follow it up with something involving alcohol with the understanding that she does not attend that part. Depending on how well you know her, this may or may not be an option, based on how she might react.

Whoever volunteers to give your bachelorette, when they offer, request that for any drinking, they choose restaurants with bar service, where any non- drinker or underage person can just order non-alcoholic beverages, while you drink alcohol. It is too early to know now. But I don't think I can every recall being in a group of more than five younger women where there was not some person either pregnant, on medication, or simply a non-drinker, even though well into their twenties and legally able to drink. Also, if there is a choice of wineries, I have been to ones in MA, NY, and Arkansas, which were chosen for a group because in addition to wine, they produced some non-alcoholic items, or ones that contained alcohol in small enough quantities to be legally sold to anyone. One had brandied fruits in chocolates, and jams and conserves that they served on crackers, made with fruits from which they mostly made brandies and liqueurs. The others had a cheese operation, and made brandies, as well as wine. The last I went to in Upstate NY, I had done the wine tour before. But 2 BM and a younger sister of a shower group did their cheese and fruit products. And I had a better time than the usual winery thing. From tiny plum tarts and filled candies with under a 1/2 teaspoon of a 5%alcohol cordial in it, to a bread pudding made with brandy where all the alcohol cooked off during slow baking but the bread was as light as a fresh made tapioca. And tastes of several cheeses, on crackers, and on fruit quickbreads made from the leftover solid mash from wines , brandies and liqueurs. So non drinkers and underage people were equally included. A few of the drinkers , having finished the wine tour, made arrangements to come back for the cheese and fruit products tour. So you could include sister and any non-drinkers in either activity, if the planners knew it was a consideration .

I've been to a bachelorette party in which we did a party bus a drag dinner show and hit a lounge. The brides sister was 20 but the lounge was 18+ . maybe try to do something like that or the day event with her but the night she has to understand shes not old enough.

Plan something she can do... maybe go to the wineries but have dinner or stay at someone's house when you get back and then she can attend and be involved! I would still do what you wanted to do and what you had in mind but find something additional that she can participate in. Like others said,maybe somewhere you guys can drink that she can attend even though she's not of age.