Bachelorette Party as a Pregnant Bridesmaid

I would just ask to keep food and non alcoholic drinks separate from alcohol. And then see if you can pay a percentage of "the brides share". Yeah it's alittle more math, but alcohol is expensive and why pay for something you can't have

Ehhh, this is a slippery slope. Covering this cost is something I’d usually chalk up to ‘Friend Tax’ — is it fair? Maybe not entirely. Is it the cost of participation? Generally yes. There’s always going to be items purchased that not everyone can fully participate in. So opening the door to not paying for what you can’t have sets that up for everyone else to start feeling the same. As an example, I have food allergies …but they’re to popular foods that are bound to end up at a party— there’s ALWAYS something I can’t eat. But I don’t mind to pay because I’m sure I have my fair share (or maybe more!) of what I CAN have. Me paying for things that can’t eat is totally fine by me, until someone else comes along and doesn’t want to pay for the other thing that *they* aren’t having. Now suddenly I want that privilege too, bc it’s not fair if they get the discount when I don’t. There’s always plenty of examples of this. So it really opens up Pandora’s box to ask for the concession. Even amongst the drinkers, not everyone’s gonna want to participate in all the types of alcohol that are purchased. IF they offer to reduce your portion a bit because of the alcohol, that’s one thing, go for it and take them up on it. But it’s not something I’d ask for on my own.

This is why I tend to be in favor of everyone just covering their own costs for the Bachelorette - including the bride herself. I split the AirBnb with my MOH and bridesmaids, everyone drove there themselves (with the exclusive of my sister and one bridesmaid that rode with me), everyone paid for their own meals at restaurants, their own tickets for the winery, etc. It felt fair to everyone.

This is tough.

i agree with everyone on here so far, honestly.

but i think i would end up just doing what McSkipper suggested.

although i think it is also fair to not pay for it if it helps you save some $ if you need it, but if not then i think i would just chip in for it too.

also congratulations to you

Yes. If you're having a house party, a bottle of alcohol and soda/juice is not much to split evenly. If you were out at a dinner and everyone was ordering mutiple martinis, then I would say, they should cut you out.

I’d only be paying for the brides food/alcohol. I wouldn’t recommend you to pay for other alcohol you’re not consuming. I’d say just let the MOH know and hopefully she’ll be understanding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your suggestion! I talked with her and she has no problem with this arrangement. You’re the best!

I agree with just paying for the bride's alcohol. Also, Whole Foods has alcohol free whiskey alternatives if you want to "drink". There are also fun mocktail recipes.

No you don’t pay for anything you will not be partaking in.

I agree just pay for the bride's alcohol. I've been in a couple bach's like this and no one had a problem with the pregnant girl not paying for a share of the alcohol she wasn't even drinking.