Bachelorette party drama

Maybe she doesn’t have the funds for multiple activities?

I would try talking to her as a friend and not a bride. She’s planned an optional event for you

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I have and every time i ask her if she is ok and try to have a convo with her she snaps. i know something is going on. she just won't share. I have tried so many ways to talk to her, but she closes her self off. Idk what else to do

I think you need to let it go. If the other girls plan extra things, I’d still let her know you’d love for her to join but understand if she can’t. Have fun at Dave and Busters because she’s obviously trying to make it work, even if other stuff is coming up in her life right now.

First, be thankful she's willing to plan a bachelorette for you. Many brides come here to complain that no one has done so for them. Second, don't get sucked into the idea that every bachelorette has to have a party bus. They don't and those things are expensive. Third, you thank her for planning, go to Dave & Buster's and have a great time.

I'd still invite her as to not exclude her. If she goes, she goes. If not, then she doesn't.

Perhaps have one of the other gals talk to her since she snaps at you. Have them tell her everyone is cool with D&B and that after they have plans to do (xyz) and she is more the welcome to join. Maybe she'll relate to them easier. She may feel slighted when talking with you because she is perhaps doing the best she knows.

I think she may be snapping at your because asking her to pay for additional free things for you to do is a rude concept. Think of it like this, say she bought you an amazing birthday gift like a giant teddy bear. Would you really look at the bear and say "oh nothing else"? Probably not.

I would thank her like crazy for planning you a completely optional event. If you want to do an escape room, take all of your bridesmaids out and pay for them to do a fun event with you as a thank you for taking time, money, and effort out of their lives to celebrate you.

She's already throwing you a party and you're basically saying that isn't good enough for you. Imagine how that makes her feel.

If you want to plan an event, plan your own event and pay for it yourself. It doesn't have to be a bachelorette, and it doesn't have to be an event that someone else pays for.

This is all wonderful advise and thank you so much. I didn't mean to sound ungrateful, I am so sorry if it came off like that. I am super grateful for all she has done. I never expected her to pay for me, even though i know that's how it suppose to go. i'm more worried about her. I guess i didn't express that enough. I have told her how grateful i am for her planning the bacholorette party and invited her to go with us after to the escape room. The other girls offered to chip in to pay her way too, ( i didn't tell her that, cause i don't want to offend her if the problem is money) she still won't tell me whats wrong and cried on the phone. I am seriously worried.

If someone wants to do something after, let them. But dont put that on her plate. & you can still invite her somewhere else.

P.s. She called back and told me what was wrong. i also apologized to her if i sounded like i was ungrateful or putting her down in anyway. I didn't know how i sounded coming across, until you all told me. i appreciate all of you!!!

View Quoted Comment Glad things worked out! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I was gonna say the same thing as everyone else!!! but i am glad that things worked out b.t you and her!

View Quoted Comment I completely agree.

Hopefully its nothing serious. Good Luck.