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Just Said Yes December 2021

Bachelorette party help!!!!

Chelsea, on June 28, 2019 at 11:27 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 4
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Hello everyone! I am the MOH in my best friends wedding and I've started planning the Bach party weekend. I have never been in a wedding before and I'm already going crazy trying to figure out what kind of decorations, food, party favors I need to get. I did just buy a bunch of stuff but I feel like her bridal party isn't very responsive to me. at least a couple of them. I just feel like im drowning not knowing what to do. Its a weekend thing and some girls are coming for 2 nights and some for one. My main question is, is it rude for me to tell everyone who is coming to BYOB and BYOeverything(for our day on the beach) or do I have to buy them snacks and everything like that? Theres going to be about 16 girls. Some in the wedding party and some not. I will have a margarita bar but I dont want to have to go out and spend tons of money on food and booze that may or may not be used? I also dont know how to handle the first morning. Do I provide breakfast or is it every man for themselves? Or just provide something small like bagels and OJ.I honestly dont know what is right and what is wrong. I want my friend to have the best Bach ever! I don't want to be cheap, thats not who I am but I also dont want to be spending a bunch of money. HELP ME PLEASE!

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on July 2, 2019 at 9:09 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It's definitely not your job to take care of everything for 16 girls for an entire weekend. A "welcome" breakfast would be nice if it's in your budget, but definitely not a requirement. I also don't think you need to go out of your way to tell them to bring their own things, that's something they should assume in the first place.

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  • Haley
    Dedicated April 2020
    Haley ·
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    I would get all of the girls into a group chat. FB messenger is great for this because you can see that people have viewed the messages. Being in a group chat might make people more responsive because then other people can see that they're not responding. Start by saying how excited you are for your friend and how it would mean a lot to her for this to be successful. Then ask if people would be more comfortable giving money ($30-40) for you to buy everything or if they want to take charge of one of the items from a list. 16 people is a lot so they could probably partner up on some things.

    List items can include:
    -margarita bar items
    -breakfast foods
    -beach snacks
    -decorations/balloons
    -alcohol (easily a 2/3 person task)
    -favors/matching shirts
    -paper goods
    -grill supplies
    -salads/sides/meat/desserts
    -coolers/ice
    -beach activities
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  • C
    Beginner October 2019
    Christine ·
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    Everyone other than the bride should share the cost of the bachelorette party. It doesn't matter whether all 16 guests are bridesmaids or just attending the bachelorette party as friends - they need to split the cost.

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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    Hi there Chelsea!

    As Haley mentioned, it may be a good idea to get all the bridesmaid into a group chat to kick the planning off. This way everyone is in the loop and when a plan is formulated, responsibilities can be shared out among the group.

    The best place to start with planning a bachelorette party is figuring out what everyone's budget is. This includes everyone in the bachelorette part group, not just bridesmaids. This is also the perfect time to set expectations on what will in included with the price, and what won't be e.g. breakfast and the beach days.

    Check out these article from the WeddingWire ideas section, I think you will find them helpful -

    Bachelorette Party Planning 101

    7 Bachelorette Party Planning Rules for One Epic Event

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