Bachelorette Party Ideas?

We are doing a beach day with all of the girls and moms and then just me and the girls are going out for dinner and drinks that night. I would talk to whoever is planning it and just voice what you would to do/who you want there. My MOH is planning mine but she asks my opinion on what I would like to do, etc.

It is typical "wedding etiquette" to only have one, if someone offers to plan one for you. However, that is up to you. Have you tried talking to your MOH, and mentioning what you would like?

It's a pretty big no no to throw a party in your own honor. This is one of those if you get one, wonderful, if not, oh well.

Have you told her that you want a larger party? Maybe it isn't in the budget for the others to have a large night.

You could have a girls night out and just leave it at that. But don't make it a bachelorette party.

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Not too far in depth, but maybe today I'll reach out to her and see what her thoughts are.

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She's your best friend. I am sure she'd be willing to hear your ideas, and work with you on planning something you'd enjoy.

One of my maids mentioned it to me. I asked my sister for her input (she's a bit older than all of us so I wanted her to feel welcomed). My sister/MOH has opted out of planning the shower and the bachelorette party for whatever reason - she just won't respond to anything. So, my other two maids are the ones planning. I told them I would help as much as I can (financially and such, I don't want them to spend an atrocious amount). I think we're just going to do something simple. Dinner, then either bowling or some place with several games, then back to a hotel room for a slumber party and some girl time. I'd just say "I know you mentioned a just us time for the bachelorette party but I'd really like to do something to include X people".

Nobodys throwing me a bachelorette party but I'm planning a girls night in lieu of one. FHs brother is throwing his Bach party and I figured it would be boring for their GFs to hang out alone at the hotel. Thinking just minigolf and dinner or something laid back

Is there something in particular you would like to do? If yes, I would suggest several ideas I have to my MOH & then let her plan.
To me this also depends on who is paying & what your MOH & your BP can afford, as you need to take this into account.

In my case, we decided not to have BP at our wedding. But two of my best friends surprised me with throwing me a bachelorette party anyway! They started planning without me even knowing & then they came to me & asked what I would like. I have a very clear idea of activities I like (and don’t like), so I let them know & they will take it from there. And I gave them a list of girls to invite (it’s only my closest friends). I also know that all the girls who will be invited will be able to comfortably afford all the planned activities, so that’s important. We are in NYC & it’s typical that everybody pays for themselves. Lastly, I will personally plan a catered meal for all of us at my place, before we start the bachelorette party. This is my way of saying thank you for putting all the effort & for coming to celebrate with me 😊
My point is you can do things your way & I wouldn’t worry about all the “rules”, as long as you are mindful of your crowd & what they can afford.

We just had mine this past weekend. We rented a cabin for the night, we all split it and packed a bunch of coats so we all had a place to crash! We into town for dinner and a few drinks, then back to the cabin for games and drinks, it was great

I agree, you should at least involve your other bridesmaids. It would be odd to not invite all the bridal party to the bach. My MOH asked me what I wanted to do before she planned it, so we kind of planned it together but she did all the details. We are going to Palm Springs and staying in a rental house for 3 days and 2 nights. We are going on a hike, to a spa, a drag queen dinner, then going out dancing! I don't think you being involved with planning is a bad thing.

I suggest you help her plan it and let her know that you want the other girls involved.

You can plan it yourself but then you have to pay for yourself as far as any travel or stay expenses. At least that's how I am doing it. And don't listen to everyone who says it's poor etiquette. If you run it by everyone and they can all afford it and WANT to go with your idea then just do it. If you are only doing something like a spa day you could suggest to you MOH that's what you'd really like to do with everyone including the moms and they can still plan it. Most times the bridesmaids ask the bride what she wants or doesn't want to do and go from there.

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This was so helpful, thank you!

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Same thing happened to me! No bridal party but my two best friends were like "are you free this day?" and then told me they were needing an invite list to plan a bachelorette party. No idea what they have planned but it was so nice of them to do that!

To the drag club. That’s what I want to do.

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That definitely makes a lot of sense. I actually spoke with her yesterday and she seems really open which is good! So I think it'll work out just fine

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That was really sweet of them!

View Quoted Comment Aw... that’s the best! I am so grateful for my amazing girlfriends I have in my life 😊

View Quoted Comment That’s awesome! I’m glad to hear & I’m sure you’ll have a great bachelorette 🙂