Bachelorette party - is it supposed to be a surprise?

I really hate this surprise concept that people love to do... there are so many things before the wedding that at the very least you should get a date... you can make the rest of it a surprise but common people ... brides need dates!!!! sorry lol... I would obviously say it's okay to ask when it is

I would definitely ask if I were you; I don't think that's tacky at all. Everyone's busy; I would want to make sure I didn't run into any scheduling conflicts. Maybe they just never realized that they forgot to tell you the date.

I requested nothing to be a surprise, but they TRIED so hard to make my shower one. Logistically, it couldn't be done since my weekends are always packed with either work or other responsibilities. It's fine to ask and they should be understanding.

I was told the weekend and the location - but i literally know nothing else about my bachelorette party, except the guest list. That's the one thing I provided. Same with my shower, I know only the date.

Not knowing anything is driving the control freak inside me crazy! But my two best friends are heading up both events and they know my taste better than anyone so that calms my inner control freak a little.

I think it's fair for them to tell you the date and time for it. The rest can be a surprise, but you need to make sure you are available then. I'd just ask them to tell you the date and time.

I was told the month and the weekend. Mine isn't until two weeks before the wedding.

I don't think it's wrong of you to ask for the date. The date is the only thing I know about my bachelorette party this weekend other than I may need to bring two outfits, one outfit for one activity, and another outfit for the other activities that evening. I hate surprises, so not knowing what I'm doing is annoying. It's so close now though, so I sort of gave up caring/asking.

The events can be a surprise, but the date shouldn't be! I don't think it's tacky to ask at all.

Thanks ladies!! I'm going to see if I can find a good moment to bring it up when I see my MOH next.

I don't want to step on their toes, but not having a date for it makes it a little tough to make other plans.

I choose the weekend that I wanted to have mine and made sure it was ok with everyone else.

You have enough to do with planning etc.. they should def tell you asap!!